Stop Overthinking Your Relationship Quotes

“Seeing Dead-End Scripts When ruminative thoughts and warning lights go unseen, partners end up enacting dead-end scripts. Dead-end scripts are harmful, predictable ways of speaking, acting, and reacting to your partner that interfere with spontaneity, devitalize your relationship, and hold partners hostage to the past by recreating it in the present. Dead-end scripts lock you into outdated versions of yourselves that keep you stuck as a couple. When you see your dead-end script, you and your partner are in a better position to change the lines and rewrite the plot.”
― Alicia Muñoz, Stop Overthinking Your Relationship: Break the Cycle of Anxious Rumination to Nurture Love, Trust, and Connection with Your Partner

“I can learn, have, and enjoy more by relaxing my grip on the outcome I had in mind and receiving the positive in what’s arriving now.”
― Alicia Muñoz, Stop Overthinking Your Relationship: Break the Cycle of Anxious Rumination to Nurture Love, Trust, and Connection with Your Partner

“It’s more about shifting your allegiance from your idea of something (or someone) to what the thing (or person) actually is. “Only when the ones we love are no longer fantasies in our minds, do those people become real to us—then love begins” (Frederickson 2017, 132). Nonattachment is about releasing your inflexible attachment to a fantasy”
― Alicia Muñoz, Stop Overthinking Your Relationship: Break the Cycle of Anxious Rumination to Nurture Love, Trust, and Connection with Your Partner

“amygdala sets off a chain reaction of protective and defensive responses (Pittman and Karle 2015). Your heart rate speeds up, and your blood pressure increases. Neurochemicals spill into your bloodstream. The same information setting off your amygdala arrives at your cortex too, milliseconds later. By the time your rational mind catches up with what’s happening inside you, your body has prepped itself to fight, freeze, or flee. This is the point at which rumination kicks in. Sensing the body’s anxiety, your cortex uses its cognitive abilities to control, manage, and make sense of a formless internal experience of danger. How does your mind exert control? Take a wild guess. Bingo. Overthinking.”
― Alicia Muñoz, Stop Overthinking Your Relationship: Break the Cycle of Anxious Rumination to Nurture Love, Trust, and Connection with Your Partner

“How does the threat link function in romantic relationships? Imagine sitting at a table in a coffee shop on a sunny Saturday morning with your partner. A waitress cheerfully takes your order. After she walks away, your partner leans toward you and whispers, “Don’t you think she looks like Gal Gadot?” The amygdala connects this comment to past experiences that have led you to feel insecure about your attractiveness, attaching a code-red signal to your partner’s comment. Before you’re aware of the trigger, your”
― Alicia Muñoz, Stop Overthinking Your Relationship: Break the Cycle of Anxious Rumination to Nurture Love, Trust, and Connection with Your Partner