Leading Below the Surface Quotes

“Becoming is deeper than that. It’s gaining awareness and taking tiny steps forward. Becoming is building micro-habits. It’s practicing gratitude for every step you take.”
― Latonya Wilkins, Leading Below the Surface: How to Build Real (and Psychologically Safe) Relationships With People Who Are Different from You

“want you to imagine that you are on foot and getting ready to cross a bridge over a small river. It’s old and rickety but still works. There is no other way to cross the river than by using the bridge. Now, I want you to imagine crossing the bridge slowly, step by step. Imagine that you are walking towards someone with whom you want to connect better and that they have to give you permission to take each subsequent step. With each below the surface action, you can move closer. The more powerful the action, the more steps you can take at one time. This is the process of bridging; a process in which each below the surface action creates more trust, leading to permission to get closer. Soon, you will be welcomed to cross the bridge and, eventually, be invited to bring others across.”
― Latonya Wilkins, Leading Below the Surface: How to Build Real (and Psychologically Safe) Relationships With People Who Are Different from You