Master Your Attachment Style Quotes

“if you repeatedly tell yourself you don’t have the time, this will eventually be your reality. The next thing we know, life has passed us by. This time, we have no more time to try out a new hobby or spend time with our loved ones.”
― Scott A Young, Master Your Attachment Style: Learn How to Build Healthy & Long-Lasting Relationships

“When a child experiences a traumatic event, no matter how many years pass, that event will forever be embedded in their memory. Furthermore, what the brain will remember the most is what they did to stay safe at that moment. The thought process behind that action will eventually repeat itself over and over well into adulthood. If the traumatic event isn’t realized, the individual will suffer the negative consequences of it. If individuals fail to address the traumatic events or the negative consequences, they might struggle to make better choices late into adulthood. Do you realize how damaging that is? Imagine being 50 and still letting your past dictate your current life choices.”
― Scott A Young, Master Your Attachment Style: Learn How to Build Healthy & Long-Lasting Relationships

“Some symptoms of alexithymia include: A lack of fantasies and imagination Poor coping skills when it comes to stress Often appearing distant and avoidant Limited ability in expressing emotions Inappropriate reactions to other people’s emotions”
― Scott A Young, Master Your Attachment Style: Learn How to Build Healthy & Long-Lasting Relationships

“Because alexithymia is linked with struggles in emotion regulation and cognitive processing, it is believed to be correlated with insecure attachment, particularly with attachment avoidance. People with alexithymia also exhibit a limited capacity to experience positive feelings, like joy and happiness.”
― Scott A Young, Master Your Attachment Style: Learn How to Build Healthy & Long-Lasting Relationships

“Deactivating strategies are actions or behaviors that seek to shut off the attachment system to avoid closeness and deny attachment needs. Engaging in deactivating strategies is one common characteristic that dismissive-avoidant people share. For example, they may send mixed signals to their partner. They claim they are not ready to commit and refuse to say, “I love you,” but stay with their partner for many months (or years) and imply that they have feelings for them. Another example of a deactivating strategy is displaying utter disinterest in their partner’s personal life and putting in no effort to get to know them.”
― Scott A Young, Master Your Attachment Style: Learn How to Build Healthy & Long-Lasting Relationships

“Hazan and Shaver (1987) believed this statement was the best way to describe a dismissive-avoidant’s feelings: “I am somewhat uncomfortable being close to others; I find it difficult to trust them completely, difficult to allow myself to depend on them. I am nervous when anyone gets too close, and often, romantic partners want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being.”
― Scott A Young, Master Your Attachment Style: Learn How to Build Healthy & Long-Lasting Relationships