The Emotionally Unavailable Man Quotes

“People THRIVE on positive reinforcement. They wither with criticism.”
― Patti Henry, The Emotionally Unavailable Man

“You do not have to fix the whole equation. You do have to fix your part of it. This is done by accepting complete, 100 percent responsibility for everything you are thinking, feeling, doing, or not doing. It is letting go of blaming ANYone for ANYthing. It is growing up and being an adult.”
― Patti Henry, The Emotionally Unavailable Man

“We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way. (page 86) Even under the most horrific circumstances, Frankl reminds us that we all have choice. Everyday, at every juncture. Choice about our thoughts, our feelings, our attitudes”
― Patti Henry, The Emotionally Unavailable Man

“What a set up for little girls! What a set up to be taught a wonderful prince will come along and meet all your emotional needs while at the same time we are teaching our little boys not to feel. To be tough. To cut off from their emotional selves. The”
― Patti Henry, The Emotionally Unavailable Man

“Why? Because we are setting up little boys to be emotionally unavailable men and, at the same time, setting up little girls to be emotionally unhappy women. How? By teaching our little girls that they are princesses. Special. And that someday their prince will come. Not only will their prince come, but he will be strong, smart, romantic and will take care of their every princess need and desire. Little princesses are taught the fantasy that they will be whisked away by the man of their dreams. That man being, of course, someone who will meet all of her needs — especially emotionally. That man will have undying love and devotion for the princess. And, by the way, no needs of his own.”
― Patti Henry, The Emotionally Unavailable Man

“The bottom line is you must do your part to change the system. It will not get better without your active, loving participation.”
― Patti Henry, The Emotionally Unavailable Man

“Most people in the psychology field believe that if we do not get a child to bond at a deep level with someone by age eight, we have lost them. We can never recover them and teach them empathy. Never.”
― Patti Henry, The Emotionally Unavailable Man

“with him; and second, to challenge him not to spend one dime at the club for”
― Patti Henry, The Emotionally Unavailable Man

“You have choice whether or not to believe someone’s assessment of you. You have choice about how you respond to something or someone. You have choice whether to stand there and get emotionally battered. You have choice about your attitude, about how big or small you make something, about how good or bad you make it. You have choice about making the cup half empty or half full. You have choice about your relationship. If it’s bad you have three choices: make it worse (end it), keep it the same (stay in victim and act out), or make it better (get in your adult ego state and change things). YOU get to decide.”
― Patti Henry, The Emotionally Unavailable Man

“To review, in facing the storm, take your 5 tools with you: You are not a victim. You have needs and the right to expect those needs to get met. Get conscious of your fear-based thoughts and actions. Have a voice. Have boundaries. You won’t be good at facing the storm at first. It will not go smoothly. It will be scary. That’s okay. Expect it. You’ll feel like you’re bungling along at first. You will be. Don’t get discouraged. Practice. Remember, the first time you swung a baseball bat you probably didn’t hit a home run.”
― Patti Henry, The Emotionally Unavailable Man

“I recently came up with a great quote regarding relationships and felt it deserved to be post.

If someone doesn't take the lead, there is no point in having the dance!

Of note, I just found 3 books by Patti Henry. Imagine that!!!! I have posted one of them which seems fitting. Don't remember writing a book!”
― Patti Henry, The Emotionally Unavailable Man: A Blueprint for Healing

“You really have three choices with your relationship: leave it, keep it the same, or make it better. Keeping”
― Patti Henry, The Emotionally Unavailable Man

“personal thoughts and feelings with people you hardly know is telling too much. Sharing things with other people that were told to you in confidence is telling too much. Sharing the arguments and discussions you have with your partner with friends and family is telling too much. All indicate poor boundaries. All indicate a need for boundaries. You”
― Patti Henry, The Emotionally Unavailable Man