Come As You Are Quotes

“Grief isn’t a process to go through. Grief isn’t a problem to overcome. Grief isn’t something to put behind you. Grief is a gift. Yes, you read that last sentence correctly: at some point during the past seventeen months, I realized the truth that grief is a gift.​”
― G. Scott Graham, Come As You Are: Meditation & Grief

“Nothing you can say can make anything any better, so shut up… Don’t deny their grief. Just be there. Resist the urge to console. Be a witness. Be a witness. Be a witness. That’s what people who are grieving really need. They just want someone to shut up and be there with them. Be present. Be present. Be present.”
― G. Scott Graham, Come As You Are: Meditation & Grief

“I can tell you as I write this book, my grief has not lessened. My eyes have welled up so many times while sitting here at the keyboard that I had to just stop because I couldn’t see the screen.”
― G. Scott Graham, Come As You Are: Meditation & Grief

“It’s not about moving on. It was about staying connected. It was about staying committed. It was about honoring everything we worked for in our 31 years together. Changing my last name was a natural evolution of that focus.​”
― G. Scott Graham, Come As You Are: Meditation & Grief

“Don’t Ask. Act. Don’t Ask. Act. Don’t Ask. Act. Got it? … She didn’t ask. She didn’t suggest. She took action. It was exactly what I needed. It is exactly what people who are grieving need.​”
― G. Scott Graham, Come As You Are: Meditation & Grief

“We aren’t stupid. We are grieving. Of the many themes that have emerged over the past seventeen months, this one has been the most consistent. Coming up again and again.”
― G. Scott Graham, Come As You Are: Meditation & Grief

“Be prepared for the insincere to scatter like cockroaches… Be prepared for those whom you thought would be there for you to not be there… And be prepared for those whom you hardly know to be there for you with complete dedication.​”
― G. Scott Graham, Come As You Are: Meditation & Grief