The Myth of Closure Quotes

“If we have loved, we will want to remember. We can do this even while moving forward in a new way. This idealization of closure”
― Pauline Boss, The Myth of Closure: Ambiguous Loss in a Time of Pandemic and Change

“Research shows that we do better to live with grief than to deny it or close the door on it. Our task now, after a time of so much suffering, is to acknowledge our losses, name them, find meaning in them, and let go of the quest for closure. Instead of searching for closure, we search for meaning and new hope. We begin this search by becoming aware of family losses even from years ago.”
― Pauline Boss, The Myth of Closure: Ambiguous Loss in a Time of Pandemic and Change

“My point is this: Continuing to use the term “closure” perpetuates the myth that losses and grief have a prescribed time for ending—or never starting—and that it’s emotionally healthier to close the door on suffering than to face it and learn to live with it.”
― Pauline Boss, The Myth of Closure: Ambiguous Loss in a Time of Pandemic and Change

“It is not unusual for others to want closure more than the person experiencing the loss.”
― Pauline Boss, The Myth of Closure: Ambiguous Loss in a Time of Pandemic and Change