A Minute to Think Quotes

“When my father interviewed kids for Candid Camera, his favorite part of his work, he had a challenge. How could he quickly break through the intimidation felt by a little child toward a big unknown adult? He did so by lighting a match and feigning difficulty in blowing it out. Balanced on the edge of a preschool-size chair, he would huff and puff with theatrical overacting, turning finally to the youngster and saying, “Can you help me?” And they would. Moments later, my dad and his new friend would be chatting about guardian angels, the wonders of spaghetti, money, and a host of other delightful topics. The gap my father was closing is called the “power distance,” a concept developed by Professor Geert Hofstede. This phenomenon can cause people to avoid or defer to those they feel are more powerful and, in doing so, to shut down channels of honest communication. By asking for help, my father broke the power distance and opened a gateway to closeness with each and every match blower. If you lead at least a few people, this section is for you. And in order to develop the closeness needed to build a white space team, you’ll need to address the same lopsided dynamics as my father. You must ask for help, step out of having all the answers, and truly enlist a wide spectrum of input to move toward the changes you want. Speak to people about their needs, desires, and enthusiasms. And make it more than a gesture, authentically being open to using the ideas that spring from these conversations. The following steps will show you how.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Unspoken appreciations are the saddest kind of verbal abdication. There is only one good thing about them—how easily they disappear. Dislodge one unspoken appreciation from your heart and it will inspire you to share ten more the next day. You can begin them with words like these: I may have never said this, but . . . I was so impressed when . . . I have always admired you because . . . I realize a fault of mine has been . . . I like you. Not just like you but “like you” like you, so . . . I would love to know more about . . . One of my favorite memories is . . . I’ve been meaning to tell you that . . . Thank you so much for the time . . . What’s wonderful about you is . . .”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Professional achievement is not a substitute for happiness, personal connection, and meaning. Many people eventually experience intense regret for having worked too hard. This regret can be avoided by having more white space with your loved ones and passions. The Thieves of Time—Drive, Excellence, Information, and Activity—show up at home in our compulsive and competitive doing, comparing, and overachieving. In order to have a life at home with depth, you must dethrone your devices so you can be present for the people who matter most. If you’re a parent, it’s never too late to slow down, pay attention, and share white space with your children. Don’t miss the ride. ASK YOURSELF What do I need to seize right now before I miss it?”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Whatever “it” is for you—family, service, travel, hobbies—white space interlaced in your day will allow you to rush out there. Take a brief strategic pause, jump to your feet, and let the chair fall.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“When is the best time to plant a tree? Twenty years ago. When is the second-best time? Today.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Perhaps we should borrow the Italian concept of “dolce far niente,” literally translated as “the sweetness of doing nothing.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Outside of work, we can ask ourselves: “Is there anything I can let go of?” to help us question and reexamine after-school activities, volunteer commitments, energy-sucking friendships, lessons, and personal projects, stripping away those that don’t make the cut. “Where is ‘good enough,’ good enough?” to help us lovingly relax the standard by which we do everything at home and to talk back to the driving perfectionism that can exhaust us in our off time. “What do I truly need to know?” to help us examine the amount of information, research, and detail we need in our personal lives. “What deserves my attention?” to help us focus more narrowly on the people and activities that we genuinely adore.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“When the thieves jump into our briefcase and follow us home, they manifest slightly differently: Drive tells us we must build enormous wealth and maintain an array of belongings that will impress others. Excellence tells us that no level of fitness, housekeeping, children’s accomplishments, parental perfection, volunteering, or hobby mastering is enough. Information tells us we must know everything about the news, sports, cultural happenings, and the latest trends to feel up to date. Activity tells us that the more we squeeze into the evenings and weekends, the more we do and contribute, the more points we get at the end of the game of life.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“We also need permission to exit the “compare and despair” game, because keeping up with the Joneses is based on untruths and robs you of white space.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Try a little experiment. Sit on the couch and tell yourself you deserve to do absolutely nothing for ten minutes. Put your feet up and exhale. Then listen as your home bursts into life like an animated movie. You’ll begin to hear demands from different tasks around your home. The gutters say clean me. The dishes say wash me. The closet says, Marie Kondo me. This rising chorus becomes louder until it yanks you up two-fisted by your collar and you begin to do. And that’s just the voices of the inanimate objects! When flesh-and-blood humans join in the cacophony of requests, you’ll be running in six directions before you realize it. You don’t believe in the basic permission to stop. I wish I had the power to grant this permission to you. If there was an incantation or potion that I could bequeath to you, I’d crawl on my knees to get it. The best I can do is tell you, “I, Juliet Funt, imperfect mother and businesswoman, give you permission to stop.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Ware writes that her patients were flooded with deeply perceptive insights in those final days, and underlines the fact that the second regret listed was actually the number one regret for every single male patient: “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Bronnie Ware, an Australian palliative care nurse, became famous for her arresting writings and book, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, about her patients in the final twelve weeks of life. Though her list has been widely published, it can’t be shared often enough. If not for the heaviness of its message, it should be posted on every fridge and bathroom mirror for every person on this earth to reread daily. The top five regrets of dying people were: I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. I wish that I had let myself be happier.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“FIX THE ROAD, NOT THE CAR.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“One team made a collective goal of each person having one night off per week. The “Predictable Time Off” (PTO) experiment featured a team commitment to rotate evenings where one person was totally disconnected from work and wireless devices.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Remember this version of a classic progression: Just because something is kind and honest doesn’t mean it needs to be said. Just because something needs to be said, doesn’t mean it needs to be said by you. Just because something needs to be said by you, doesn’t mean it needs to be said now.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Phone Narration is the action of describing out loud what you are doing when using any screen-based device. It’s handy for keeping the human-to-human link when the digital ice-cream truck drives by.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Begin training yourself to put Hall Time between every meeting on your calendar, including conference calls, video calls, and one-on-ones. If you’re implementing Hall Time on your own, you can telegraph these gaps by scheduling meetings with the calendar default of 45–50 minutes and 20–25 minutes, respectively, for 60- and 30-minute expectations”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Dear Mr. Honcho, I’d be really excited to take this on. (This is the first slice of graciousness.) I do have a number of other high-priority projects you’ve given me this month. Can you help me determine which should be at the top of my list to dive into to meet our goals and which can be delayed or perhaps rethought? (This is the no. The “which” implies that some tasks will remain and some will be cut, handed to others, or deprioritized. This shows some fortitude but in the softest way.) Could we spend a few minutes reviewing my projects and the deadlines that will work best for you? (Just the lightest smidge of deference mixed with showing off an organized plan for delivering the best outcome.) I appreciate your help. (The second slice of graciousness.) Best, Betty Backbone”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Resist the urge to teach them a lesson. As in, “We feel it’s unreasonable to make this request at the end of a Friday.” It’s tempting to try to show them the unfairness in their approach, but it’s not helpful to your cause.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Dear Boundaryless Client, We certainly love working with you. (This is the first slice of graciousness.) Squeezing this important request in over the weekend won’t work for us. (This is the no. Just get it out.) Your deliverables are very important, and we want to make sure they get the focus they deserve. (Second slice of graciousness. This sentence shows good intention and some effort at gentle repair for their disappointment.) We would be happy to give this our full attention early Monday morning and have some numbers to you by end of business. Best, Chris”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“These scripts are appropriate for straightforward interactions and binary yes/no decisions: “May I take twenty-four hours to get back to you?” Buy yourself time to work the Hourglass. When the interpersonal contact is broken, the intellect engages, better equipping you to make rational decisions. “I can do it for you this time, but I can’t do it for you every time.” Ease a demanding person back slowly from their expectations, and set up a future no. “It does not (or will not) work for me to . . .” This clause is a marvelous neutral beginning to any no. Be cautious of harshness in your tone. “I can’t, but here is another option for you.” (No, plus a substitute.) Share an alternative or suggestion in place of your being able to help. “It’s not good for me now, but let’s look ahead in our calendars.” (Yes, but in the future.) Be careful you’re not using a delay to avoid a necessary no. Of course, if timing is really the issue, then push the commitment back. “Sweetie, please take the no.” To use with children asking for the forty-third time if they can do or have something. “Mother/sister/brother/honey, I’m going to give that one a pass.” Use this easy phrase with family to practice no when the stakes are low. “Thanks for your directness.” A phrase to use when you’re on the other side of the no. “Sorry, no.” Yes, it’s a complete sentence. Get it out and then say nothing more.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Take a moment to remember the last time someone ghosted you in the middle of an exchange. Reexperience how dismissive and unkind it felt and use that sense memory to commit to playing a braver game. Decide that saying nothing is not an option.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“I’ll provide some templates and strategies for what to say, but first, let’s address the choice to say nothing at all. I want you to commit to rejecting “the coward’s no”—ghosting.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Parking your non–time sensitive requests and needs on the Yellow List will streamline your communication and reduce email and messaging. When you curb urgency, your executive presence will become stronger. Vacation time is critical to focus and creative contribution. We should not let false urgency steal it from us.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“The three categories of urgency will help you recalibrate what’s immediate and what can wait: NOT TIME SENSITIVE: When an immediate answer is not needed. TACTICALLY TIME SENSITIVE: When fast action is tied to a business result. EMOTIONALLY TIME SENSITIVE: When a feeling of urgency stems from emotion, curiosity, or stress.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Your hairstyle is your choice. Your hobbies are your choice. Your words are your choice. Urgency is your choice. Your boss and team can write a story that blankets everything with a light dusting of mania, but you don’t have to buy in. In fact, by opting out of this particular form of social conformity you serve yourself and your company better.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Four questions will help you artfully direct the application of Drive, Excellence, Information, and Activity. Is there anything I can let go of? (for Drive) Where is “good enough,” good enough? (for Excellence) What do I truly need to know? (for Information) What deserves my attention? (for Activity)”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Each simple question points you to the cream, to clearing a path to your most important work. These twenty-five words provide a framework and shareable language I can’t wait for you to have. I use them personally just about every week of my life: Is there anything I can let go of? Where is “good enough,” good enough? What do I truly need to know? What deserves my attention?”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Like the value system of more, the thieves operate according to a psychological construct called the “hedonic treadmill,” which states, “Whatever we have, we will adapt to it, and soon we will want more.” The hedonic treadmill, sometimes referred to as hedonic adaptation, is our tendency to reset our level of contentment after each advance. As we achieve more (drive), finesse more (excellence), know more (information), and do more (activity), we get used to each new plateau and quickly feel it’s a little unexciting. Whenever we get where we think we are going, the finish line moves.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work

“Drive THE CON: We should take on as much as we can handle. THE TRUTH: Being selective about goals brings higher quality of output. Excellence THE CON: Every touch point deserves to be optimized. THE TRUTH: We lose time and energy mired in unnecessary detail. Information THE CON: There is no such thing as having too much knowledge. THE TRUTH: Our human brains can consume only so much information. Activity THE CON: Busy and productive are the same. THE TRUTH: Always being in motion can limit thought and deplete us.”
― Juliet Funt, A Minute to Think: Reclaim Creativity, Conquer Busyness, and Do Your Best Work