#ChurchToo Quotes

“If someone doesn’t want to have sex with you but you convince them to have sex with you anyway using threats and fear, that is rape.”
― Emily Joy Allison, #ChurchToo: How Purity Culture Upholds Abuse and How to Find Healing

“Purity culture is a mindfuck.”
― Emily Joy Allison, #ChurchToo: How Purity Culture Upholds Abuse and How to Find Healing

“There's no better way to see what an organization is teaching than by looking at its actively enforced policies.”
― Emily Joy Allison, #ChurchToo: How Purity Culture Upholds Abuse and How to Find Healing

“Human being verses human givers is a false dichotomy, your health and well-being should never be demanded of you to save someone else, especially not your abuser. That kind of 'forgiveness' is cheap and meaningless, based in the power-hoarding impulse of purity culture, and it is not any kind of forgiveness worth pursuing. When and if you forgive is up to you. It is a gift you give to yourself, not a tax you pay for being abused in a Christian community. And to those who wish to be allies to survivors, I say this: Sit with your discomfort. Welcome it in. Take a deep breath. Kneel down. Light that bridge on fire. And walk away.”
― Emily Joy Allison, #ChurchToo: How Purity Culture Upholds Abuse and How to Find Healing