Crying in the Bathroom Quotes

“There’s always been a part of me that is vast and empty. Though I have a vivid inner life and find so much meaning in books, art, writing, and relationships, there’s something deep inside me that feels like an insatiable pit. No matter the circumstances, there’s never enough. Maybe that’s one way to describe my depression: a bottomless desire for which I will destroy everything in my path in a fruitless attempt to satisfy. Beauty in its various forms is what makes me feel most complete—a poem that obliterates me, a painting that makes me gasp, a song that fills me with inexplicable wonder. But once that passes, it’s there again: the absence, the void, the need, the gaping hole of nothingness.”
― Erika L. Sánchez, Crying in the Bathroom

“I’m easily distracted and my moods can be unpredictable. The world is not built for people with this kind of temperament. Throughout my life, I’ve struggled to keep a semblance of normalcy so I can make a living and simply exist, but my mind is often a swirl of daydreams.”
― Erika L. Sánchez, Crying in the Bathroom

“Women’s pain has always been oversimplified and disregarded. What is not understood is conveniently assigned to the ethereal.”
― Erika L. Sánchez, Crying in the Bathroom

“Better to laugh at the absurdity of your time on earth than to resign yourself to mourning all of life’s misfortunes.”
― Erika L. Sánchez, Crying in the Bathroom

“Now in my late thirties, I love indulging my feminine sensibilities. For too long, I not only feared them, I didn’t think I deserved to feel pretty or beautiful. Growing up poor, there was a part of me that believed I didn’t deserve to spend time or money on what seemed frivolous. I never saw my mother spend money on herself. I remember that she had one Mary Kay lipstick that she always wore to family parties. Even now when she buys herself something that could be considered unnecessary, she tries to give it away. I learned to deny myself pleasure also.”
― Erika L. Sánchez, Crying in the Bathroom

“To exert control over their colonies, the Spanish commissioned paintings to illustrate different racial distinctions. As the cultural historian John Charles Chasteen describes in his book Born in Blood and Fire, a person’s caste was recorded in their baptismal register, and those of lower (and darker-skinned) castes were legally barred from, among other things, becoming priests, owning weapons, attending university, and even wearing silk.”
― Erika L. Sánchez, Crying in the Bathroom

“Although the members of the six categories were legally prohibited from mixing, there was, of course, a whole lot of boinking and raping going on, so mixing was inevitable. Interestingly, the Spanish crown was desperate for money, so they allowed successful members from the lower castes to purchase exemptions. You could actually buy your whiteness. I wonder how many people today would line up for that shit. I can imagine Latinx Trump supporters coming out in droves. Assholes.”
― Erika L. Sánchez, Crying in the Bathroom

“Though I was in some ways devastated by the disintegration of my marriage, I was excited to begin again. I had always known, deep down, that we weren’t meant for each other. We were so incompatible, but I had convinced myself that I could make it work by repressing all my needs and desires. It was the practice of Buddhism that helped me see that I had been lying to myself for many years.”
― Erika L. Sánchez, Crying in the Bathroom

“My whole life I had learned to accept scraps of affection and attention. It’s what I thought I deserved. This explained why all my romantic relationships have been dysfunctional, why I pined for men who had so little to give me.”
― Erika L. Sánchez, Crying in the Bathroom

“DePaul University,”
― Erika L. Sánchez, Crying in the Bathroom

“What kind of God, for instance, would give me debilitating depression and willingly bestow humankind with genocide, pediatric cancer, and Donald Trump?”
― Erika L. Sánchez, Crying in the Bathroom

“My umbilical cord almost strangled me when I was born.”
― Erika L. Sánchez, Crying in the Bathroom

“That was some white people shit.”
― Erika L. Sánchez, Crying in the Bathroom

“Women of color are regularly praised for our resilience. But what's so often overlooked is that our resilience is a response to so many forms of violence. For us, resilience is more than a noble trait. It's a lifestyle that oppression has demanded of us. Either we adapt, or we die.”
― Erika L. Sánchez, Crying in the Bathroom

“pliegues.”
― Erika L. Sánchez, Llorando en el baño

“I found most of my solace in reading, writing, and music. Happiness was abnormal, something worthy of applause and celebration. If I was in a good mood for longer than a few hours, it was almost astonishing. I was angry at being alive, at having to exist in human form. I wanted to disappear.”
― Erika L. Sánchez, Crying in the Bathroom

“There’s always been a part of me that is vast and empty. Though I have a vivid inner life and find so much meaning in books, art, writing, and relationships, there’s something deep inside me that feels like an insatiable pit.”
― Erika L. Sánchez, Crying in the Bathroom

“When I watched Beverly Hills, 90210, I was so confused that Donna Martin, played by Tori Spelling, was considered a hot girl. To me, she looked like a sad horse in desperate need of a torta. Were all blond women automatically considered beautiful? Was I missing something? Was this some kind of conspiracy?”
― Erika L. Sánchez, Crying in the Bathroom

“It’s funny to me to think back on how much of a feminist I believed myself to be while simultaneously being someone’s side piece.”
― Erika L. Sánchez, Crying in the Bathroom

“The Faraway Nearby, Rebecca Solnit”
― Erika L. Sánchez, Crying in the Bathroom