People Skills for Analytical Thinkers Quotes

“Try to see the world from the other person’s perspective, even if you know you’re right. Your willingness to listen results in learning opportunities and increases the chance that you will successfully influence the other person.”
― Gilbert Eijkelenboom, People Skills for Analytical Thinkers

“Making subtle modifications in your way of communication doesn’t mean you throw your character overboard. The goal of learning about other people’s algorithms is not 100% about adjusting our behavior. If you’re changing your whole character based on the people around you, people have no idea who you are. If you try to please everybody, nobody will be pleased.”
― Gilbert Eijkelenboom, People Skills for Analytical Thinkers

“We are more likely to misunderstand people who are different from us. That’s why we are tempted to label them as “difficult.” In doing so, we place them in a different category and are even less likely to appreciate their behavior. Before you know it, you are pulled into the cycle of assumptions and blame.”
― Gilbert Eijkelenboom, People Skills for Analytical Thinkers

“You can learn about people’s algorithms in different ways. Observing behavior will only give you surface-level information. Asking about other people’s algorithms often leads to a deeper understanding, which in turn will improve your social interactions.”
― Gilbert Eijkelenboom, People Skills for Analytical Thinkers

“Having a good understanding of other people’s algorithms (their beliefs and needs) helps to predict their behavior. This gives you the opportunity to make interactions easier, more productive, and more fun.”
― Gilbert Eijkelenboom, People Skills for Analytical Thinkers

“Share more of your personal data in regular conversations. These conversational seeds make it easier for others to understand your algorithms. Moreover, they help the other person develop an interesting dialogue.”
― Gilbert Eijkelenboom, People Skills for Analytical Thinkers

“Some of the algorithms that you have built in your life are deeply ingrained in your mind. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t change anything. Through the behavior-impact analysis, you can examine the results of your behavior. If you are unhappy with what you see, it’s time for change.”
― Gilbert Eijkelenboom, People Skills for Analytical Thinkers

“In decision-making, outlining the rational pros and cons was never an issue for me. My problem was that I completely disregarded the emotional side. When I started giving my feelings more attention, I got a more accurate view of the emotional variables. Since I had a more complete picture with both rational and emotional variables, I could make an optimal decision.”
― Gilbert Eijkelenboom, People Skills for Analytical Thinkers

“Your algorithms are like a highway; you have taken that route every time in your life because the highway is fast and easy. Your new algorithm is a hidden path through the undergrowth where you have to cut down bushes along the way. If you keep forcing yourself up the hidden path, it eventually becomes the highway. The old highway gets overgrown and forgotten about.”
― Gilbert Eijkelenboom, People Skills for Analytical Thinkers

“Next to our harmful algorithms, everyone has built a set of beneficial algorithms. Most people aren’t aware of all their beneficial algorithms, because the behavior feels automatic and ordinary. Becoming aware of those positive triggers helps to maximize their impact.”
― Gilbert Eijkelenboom, People Skills for Analytical Thinkers

“Algorithms are formed through our experiences in the world. We embed a belief about the optimal output given different types of input. In other words, we learn how we should behave in different types of situations.”
― Gilbert Eijkelenboom, People Skills for Analytical Thinkers

“Even as a rational person, your emotions are crucial for the decisions you make in your life. Learn how to recognize your own and other people’s emotions and use them to your advantage.”
― Gilbert Eijkelenboom, People Skills for Analytical Thinkers

“You become powerful when you can tap into both your rational brain and your emotional brain. The rider and the elephant need to work in harmony. And that’s where emotional intelligence comes into play.”
― Gilbert Eijkelenboom, People Skills for Analytical Thinkers

“You can see your brain as a set of algorithms. All situational variables are taken as input and processed into an output. In other words, our algorithms analyze a situation and tell us what to do.”
― Gilbert Eijkelenboom, People Skills for Analytical Thinkers