Home Is Where We Start from Quotes

“The most aggressive and therefore the most dangerous words in the languages of the world are to be found in the assertion I AM.”
― Donald Woods Winnicott, Home Is Where We Start from

“if we have these personal problems, we must live with them and see how time brings some kind of personal evolution rather than a solution.”
― D. W. Winnicott, Home Is Where We Start From: Essays by a Psychoanalyst

“The life of a healthy individual is characterized by fears, conflicting feelings, doubts, frustrations, as much as by the positive features. The main thing is that the man or woman feels he or she is living his or her own life, taking responsibility for action or inaction, and able to take credit for success and blame for failure. In one language it can be said that the individual has emerged from dependence to independence, or to autonomy.”
― D.W. Winnicott, Home Is Where We Start From: Essays by a Psychoanalyst

“At the beginning these two things, the real and the imaginative life, are one and the same thing, because the infant at the beginning does not perceive objectively, but lives in a subjective state, being the creator of all. Gradually, in health the infant becomes able to perceive a world that is a not-me world, and to attain this state the infant must be cared for well enough at the time of absolute dependence.”
― D. W. Winnicott, Home Is Where We Start From: Essays by a Psychoanalyst

“In schizoid illness, object-relating goes wrong; the patient relates to a subjective world or fails to relate to any object outside the self. Omnipotence is asserted by means of delusions. The patient is withdrawn, out of contact, bemused, isolated, unreal, deaf, inaccessible, invulnerable, and so on. In health a great deal of life has to do with various kinds of object-relating, and with a ‘to-and-fro’ process between relating to external objects and relating to internal ones. In full fruition this is a matter of interpersonal relationships, but the residues of creative relating are not lost, and this makes every aspect of object-relating exciting.”
― D.W. Winnicott, Home Is Where We Start From: Essays by a Psychoanalyst

“an environment that holds the baby well enough, the baby is able to make personal development according to the inherited tendencies. The result is a continuity of existence that becomes a sense of existing, a sense of self, and eventually results in autonomy.”
― D. W. Winnicott, Home Is Where We Start From: Essays by a Psychoanalyst

“Relating to objects can be looked at in the same way as psychosomatic coexistence and the wider issue of integration. Object-relating is something that the maturational process drives the baby to achieve, but cannot happen securely unless the world is presented to the baby well enough. The adapting mother presents the world in such a way that the baby starts with a ration of the experience of omnipotence, this being the proper foundation for his or her later coming to terms with the Reality Principle.”
― D.W. Winnicott, Home Is Where We Start From: Essays by a Psychoanalyst