Yinka, Where Is Your Huzband? Quotes

“Reassurance that I'm not alone. That despite all the bullshit life can throw sometimes, I have someone looking out for me, fighting in my corner, and giving me everything that I need to get through.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where Is Your Huzband?

“You need to define who you are. Otherwise, people will happily do it for you.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where Is Your Huzband?

“You see, I’m responsible for my happiness.’ She presses a hand to her chest. ‘I would have lived my life disappointed if I had not known that happiness is a choice. Do you know what would be even more disappointing?”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“People are always confusing my weirdly good memory with being a stalker.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where Is Your Huzband?

“I’m saving myself for marriage because in the Bible, sex is something sacred. And while I respect that everyone makes their own choices, I wish that society didn’t make me feel alien for mine. So, yup. There you have it. I’m a virgin.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“Donovan chuckles, and he must have read into my raised brows, because he says, ‘Yinka, counselling isn’t just for the white man, you know.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“Nana shakes her head. ‘So you telling me, yeah, that you’re not pretty enough, huh? That being dark and skinny is not beautiful? Yinka, I’m also dark and skinny, and I think I’m hot.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“Yeah, I’m tired of my mum and aunties praying over my love life as though I’m terminally ill.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“That’s the thing with coming from a Nigerian family.’ I drag my eyes back to Brian. ‘They forget that love is a process. That you need to fall in love first, not just meet a random guy and decide he’s the one to marry.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“Well, I know you believe in love, yeah. And it’s great that you believe that one day you’ll find it. But don’t you think you actually need to, you know, step out to find it?”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“But you know how I am with big crowds. I don’t do well with mixed energies. It just … I dunno. Disturbs my inner peace.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“I realize how freeing it is to say what I think. To stand up for myself. I realize how much less of an effort it is to be my authentic self, as opposed to trying to be someone else. I love this feeling.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where Is Your Huzband?

“you to be happy as a single woman now while retaining your faith that you’ll find love because you deserve it. In other words, to embrace the present and not fear the future. Does that make sense?”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“want to help you confront your underlying fears head-on. The goal here is for”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“I’m responsible for my happiness.” She presses a hand to her chest. “I would have lived my life disappointed if I had not known that happiness is a choice. Do you know what would be even more disappointing?”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“True, true. Not many,” Donovan answers. “And do you know why? Because there’s too many people out there, yeah, that are not doing what they really want to do. They stick around in a poxy job they hate for years. For what? To buy a big yard and to pay the bills? Then they wonder why they have a midlife crisis when they reach their fifties.” He kisses his teeth. “Nah, bruv. Not me.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“You see, my dear, in life, you will face many, many pressures. But it’s important that you only do what you want to do, in your own time and at your own pace. If you can remember this, you’ll live a very happy life.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“Meanwhile, the only blessing in my life these last few weeks has been the latest season of Insecure. And”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“everyone finds love in their own time, and yours just happened to be before mine.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“Yinka. What did I do to you for you to be treating me like this, ehn? Why would you embarrass me in front of all my friends?”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“fact, only a few weeks back, this guy told me straight to my face that I’m not his preference. And do you know what his consolation prize was? Well, at least I’m pretty for a dark-skinned girl. It broke me, Jacqui. It broke me. And that’s why … and that’s why … and that’s why I considered lightening my skin.’ My confession roars out of me.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“I hit ‘end call’ before the tears come. I’ve heard enough. Suddenly, I’m hyperventilating. Crying like a child who has just broken her toy. I snatch off my wig and toss my phone to one side, not even caring when it bounces off the bed with a thump. I feel so stupid. Humiliated. I’m taken back to the younger me on the playground. I feel … ugly.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“Honest with you?’ I lose it. ‘Well, sod off and have a nice life, because I’m not compromising my virginity for anybody. I’ll find a man who’s happy to wait till marriage and I’m glad it won’t be you.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“To listen to me. If you don’t want to spend time with me or talk to me over the phone, fine. I know it must be awkward for you now that I’m married and have a baby. But just stop making empty promises, okay?”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“This is why I love volunteering – meeting all sorts of people from all walks of life. Giving something back and getting priceless moments like these in return.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“Please, Nana, I feel guilty as it is. I’m going to make it up to Rachel. But I don’t regret standing up for myself. Let’s face it, Ola and I have never really been friends. We were only friends by default because we’re cousins. Now we can stop pretending and go our separate ways.’ I”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“In the middle?’ I let out an incredulous laugh. ‘You hardly back me. Even when Ola’s in the wrong, you still take her side. Ever since we were kids. Always having an excuse ready to justify Ola’s behaviour.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“I can’t believe she’s laughing at me. At my heartbreak. At my pain. Just because Alex and I were never together, doesn’t mean my feelings don’t count. I thought that of all people, Ola would understand. I thought she would understand because she had been cut in the same way.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“This is why things didn’t work out with Alex,’ cries Mum, stabbing a finger at me. ‘You lied and God doesn’t like liars.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?

“Now she has an entire family. And as her older sister, I feel helpless that I can’t offer her any advice. Just like when she was getting married, I’m useless. I didn’t even get round to organizing our catch-up.”
― Lizzie Damilola Blackburn, Yinka, Where is Your Huzband?