The Monogamy Myth Quotes

“As mentioned earlier, the primary way to create and sustain excitement in a sexual relationship is through honesty. It provides a sense of newness and surprise that can’t be matched by any of the standard gimmicks for improving a couple’s sex life. NOT”
― Peggy Vaughan, The Monogamy Myth: A Personal Handbook for Recovering from Affairs

“• motive: being motivated by a desire to improve the relationship • timing: considering the best time to have a conversation • location: choosing surroundings that support communication • attitude: having an attitude conducive to a productive discussion • responsiveness: listening in such a way as to encourage honesty • expectations: openness to whatever results from this effort”
― Peggy Vaughan, The Monogamy Myth: A Personal Handbook for Recovering from Affairs

“Another rationalization is that if the spouse never suspects the affair, then no damage is done. This belief ignores the fact that the distance and isolation created by the deception of an affair cause a great deal of damage to the relationship. People become strangers who don’t really know each other. This makes a couple vulnerable to all kinds of problems and pressures that can eventually lead to divorce or a deadened relationship.”
― Peggy Vaughan, The Monogamy Myth: A Personal Handbook for Recovering from Affairs

“People need to continue talking until they get enough understanding to be able to genuinely leave it behind.”
― Peggy Vaughan, The Monogamy Myth: A Personal Handbook for Recovering from Affairs