Sidelined Quotes

“It's so important to have a group of people who know what it's like to be you.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“The only person that knows what it's like to be the only woman in a male-dominated workplace is another woman. End of.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“Too often, women are socialized not to be push or greedy, which too often means they are left with no advocate. If you won't advocate for yourself who will?”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“It's horrifying that women are so used to taking things away from each other in structures of scarcity that it's hard to even imagine that getting what you need doesn't hurt someone else.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“When resources are scare for women, they often compete with each other instead of focusing attention on the patriarchal systems that keep them from getting what they need.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“Boys learn to be competitive in sports really early on. They learned to have camaraderie and competition coexist. Whereas for girls, competition is really looked down on because we're supposed to be communal and nice and nurturing and smiling.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“Women who do sports are socialized differently and are socialized in ways that we traditionally think of as male socialization. They learn to compete, they learn to be aggressive, their hormones shift with their behavior.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“What I saw there renewed my faith in the power of sports and cemented my belief that access to sports and play are essential to growing women's voices and influence around the globe.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“They have to see women in sports as being worthy of being treated fairly and right.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“If people perceive you're good enough at something, there's nothing sports won't let you get away with.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“For the most part, we do our jobs, day after day, keeping our mouths shut while we watch very flawed men in both sports and media elevated to the role of demigods in our sports-obsessed culture.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“Anger is really associated with the idea that you can control things in a way that sadness isn't. Crying is clearly associated with sadness, but sadness is not a control emotion. it's a retreat emotion.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“Women are allowed to exist in sports-only space, for the most part, as long we're young enough and hot enough and appeal to men.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“Harassment is, in the end, about silencing women, which is why we get much more of it when we take a stand on certain issues than when we read sports scores.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“I'm angry I'm expected to accept online harassment as the price of being a woman with an opinion. My life, my words, and my actions are put under a magnifying glass. Every day I see my words scrutinized, twisted, and distorted by thousands of men hell-bent on destroying me and silencing me.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“If it's not your fight, it's a little easier to ignore how hard someone alongside you is fighting.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“Often we are perceived as less feminine if we "fight back.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“It's also deeply isolating. No one really wants you to talk about it, at least not to the extent that you feel you need to talk about it.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“The other thing about online harassment is that when it's happening to you, it's all you can talk about and think about. You feel like you're standing, naked and exposed in the center of a circle of people who are yelling and screaming insults at you. But the rest of the world doesn't notice.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“In sports radio, being loud and confident in your opinion is often confused with being good at your job. If you're a man, that is.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“I often wonder what kind of mental toll it takes on those of us who are the sole women in workplaces full of males.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America

“That's when I bite back the tears, draw myself up, square my shoulders, and get ready to fight back. For the women coming behind me.”
― Julie Dicaro, Sidelined: Sports, Culture, and Being a Woman in America