The Scaffold Effect Quotes

“At the Child Mind Institute, we don’t like to use the word punishment. Punishment sounds punitive, like it’s supposed to hurt. Parenting should never be about inflicting pain and suffering on your child. And yet, Gen X and Millennial parents, thanks to their Boomer and Silent Gen parents, grew up believing that if punishments didn’t inflict shame, guilt, loneliness, hunger, then kids wouldn’t “learn their lesson.” Too bad the lesson was, “My parents are cruel.”
― Harold Koplewicz, Scaffold Parenting: Raising Resilient, Self-Reliant, and Secure Kids in an Age of Anxiety