This Book Will Make You Dangerous Quotes

“We will go to great lengths to avoid discomfort physically and emotionally.”
― Tripp Lanier, This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide For Men Who Refuse to Settle

“In other words, when we’re running on autopilot, our choices to avoid “danger” can be boiled down to protecting, pleasing, and proving. Protecting — covering our ass, making sure we don’t do anything to feel discomfort or put ourselves at risk. Pleasing — keeping the peace and making sure we don’t rock the boat with regards to the people we care about. Proving — doing what we’ve got to do to consistently signal that we belong, that we’re worthy, and that we matter.”
― Tripp Lanier, This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide For Men Who Refuse to Settle

“I don’t know everything that may happen, but I’ll figure it out. I can adapt. I can grow. I can take chances. I can course-correct. I can learn new things. My life isn’t fixed in stone. That mindset reflects a position of strength. It’s that mindset that allows peace to arise today — not at some point in the future.”
― Tripp Lanier, This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide For Men Who Refuse to Settle

“You can fucking do that? Yes. Yes you can. It takes practice. It requires us to be bold. It requires us to be playful. So every day, take some time to get curious about the places in your life where you feel trapped or drained or isolated or stressed or bored, and then play with these questions. Explore what could be possible for you if there was no longer anything to defend or justify or prove.”
― Tripp Lanier, This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide For Men Who Refuse to Settle

“I hope you haven’t been to a lot of funerals, but it’s amazing what gets said to a lifeless body lying in a coffin. So many of us — afraid to feel uncomfortable or to look “weird” — wait until that loved one is gone to express our genuine appreciation for them. But think about it — how many of our loved ones could die today without knowing just how much they mean to us or how much they impact our lives for the better? Withholding this love robs us of the wonderful satisfaction of feeling truly connected. But the good news is that there are opportunities to do this daily if we’re willing to sack up, be a little uncomfortable, and risk looking “weird.” Just imagine a world where we were as quick to offer our appreciation as we were to spew our criticisms.”
― Tripp Lanier, This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide For Men Who Refuse to Settle

“Protecting — covering our ass, making sure we don’t do anything to feel discomfort or put ourselves at risk. Pleasing — keeping the peace and making sure we don’t rock the boat with regards to the people we care about. Proving — doing what we’ve got to do to consistently signal that we belong, that we’re worthy, and that we matter. This defensive decision-making process is hardwired into our system. It happens instantaneously and unconsciously, and it’s at the core of our “survival” in this modern world.”
― Tripp Lanier, This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide For Men Who Refuse to Settle

“What do I do so that I don’t feel uncomfortable? What do I do so that I don’t lose time, energy, or money? What do I do so that I don’t look bad? In other words, when we’re running on autopilot, our choices to avoid “danger” can be boiled down to protecting, pleasing, and proving.”
― Tripp Lanier, This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide For Men Who Refuse to Settle

“We are genetically designed to focus forward, to move towards what we want. Which means we are not prey. We are fucking hunters.”
― Tripp Lanier, This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide For Men Who Refuse to Settle