Love People, Use Things Quotes

“But here’s the deal. You want people to love you for who you are, not who you portray yourself to”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“Minimalism is a practice of intentional living.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“Judgment is but a mirror that reflects the insecurities of the person who’s doing the judging. Most criticism is nothing but an unsolicited discharge of personal preference. And because you didn’t ask for it, you aren’t required to respond. Better yet, it’s best not to fire back. Instead, click delete or mute”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“Each of us is already a whole person, and the role of everything else is only to augment, enhance, or amplify our lives, not get in the way.”
― Ryan Nicodemus, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“Wright says, "You are the only person in the world who can complete and fulfill you, and ensure your happiness. Everyone else is a potential (hopefully) wonderful addition to that fated situation.

You are born complete, you die complete, and you decide whom you spend your time with in between.”
― Ryan Nicodemus, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“Allowing others’ expectations to shape our desires and behavior and, ultimately, our lives will always lead to guilt and shame because we’ll never be able to live up to everyone else’s conflicting values.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works : 'This is a book about how to live more deeply and more fully' Jay Shetty

“You are born complete, you die complete, and you decide whom you spend your time with in between.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“You must remember to love people and use things, rather than to love things and use people.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“Letting go of someone does not mean that you don’t love that person; it means only that their behavior won’t allow you to participate in the relationship anymore. It doesn’t make you bad or evil or negligent to walk away. You’re making room for a better life.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“Just as we set down heavy luggage we no longer want to carry, we forgive others so we can move forward without the weight of the past.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“So, you needn’t feel obliged to return phone calls or respond to text messages or meet with a toxic person for dinner. You shouldn’t be impelled to explain yourself. You are not obligated to maintain a tie with anyone. Friendship, companionship, and love are a privilege, not a right, and if someone has squandered that privilege, you aren’t required to stick around. The toxic person is entitled to nothing.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“Can I get something? Pleeeease!” “What do you want?” “I don’t know—anything!” That’s what consumerism does to everyone. We don’t know what we want, but we know we want more, and we want it now.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“There’s an old saying that “hurt people hurt people,” and that’s what’s happening whenever we walk around infecting the world with negativity.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“Yet a Rolex won’t buy you more time. A Mercedes won’t get you there any faster. And a vacation home won’t earn you more vacation days. In fact, the opposite is true in most cases. We are attempting to purchase that which is priceless: time. You might have to work hundreds of hours to buy an expensive watch, years to pay off a luxury car, and a lifetime to afford a vacation home. Which means we’re willing to give up our time to purchase the illusion of time.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“I would posit, however, that people aren’t searching for happiness -they're searching for freedom. And true happiness that is, enduring well-being- is a by product of that freedom [...] when you think about freedom, you often think of doing whatever you want, whenever you want. [...] Dig deeper, however, and you quickly realize that's not freedom- it's self inflicted tyranny [...] Sure, faux freedom is comfortable, not unlike a child's security blanket, but it is not the blanket that keeps a child secure. Security resides in our ability to move on, to walk away from what's holding us back, and to walk toward that which is worthwhile.”
― Ryan Nicodemus, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“How much is enough?
Less than enough is depriving.
More than enough is indulging.
Enough is the sweet spot in the middle, the place where intentonality intersects with contentment, where lust doesn't get in the way of creating something meaningful. Sure, you could pursue more. But "could" is not a reason to do anything.
Enough is enough when you decide it's enough.”
― Ryan Nicodemus, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“Six Questions to Ask Before Buying
1. Who am I buying this for? (Me/Image)
2. Will this add value to my life?
3. Can I afford it?
4. Is this the best use of this money?
5. What’s the actual cost? ($+)
6. Would the best version of me buy this?”
― Ryan Nicodemus, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“If there is a core message within minimalism, it's this; you probably don't need that.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus, Love People, Use Things

“There are no refunds on misspent attention.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus, Love People, Use Things

“HAPPINESS IS NOT THE GOAL—LIVING A MEANINGFUL LIFE IS, AND HAPPINESS IS A BEAUTIFUL BY-PRODUCT.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“An item might be deeply “discounted” today, but it’s 100 percent off if you don’t buy it. Not buying something is your future self letting go of that thing in advance.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“The environmentalist Bill McKibben, author of Deep Economy: The Wealth of Communities and the Durable Future, has found that as a person’s floor space increases, the number of close friends he or she can depend on decreases.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“It took a catastrophe for many people to understand that an economy predicated on exponential growth isn’t a healthy economy—it’s a vulnerable one.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“THE ENEMY ISN’T ONLY CONSUMERISM NOW—IT’S DECADENCE AND DISTRACTION, BOTH MATERIAL AND NOT.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“Not only do I benefit from my alone time, but everyone around me benefits, too, because we all get the best version of me.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“I discovered I was more affable whenever I carved out time for myself.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“The point being that none of us fit neatly into a specific personality type.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“But if you know yourself well enough, you’ll be able to adjust your life, and your interactions with others, to better fit your personality—instead of trying to stretch your personality to fit someone else’s expectations.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“just like extroversion isn’t in mine. Consequently, I felt drained by the ceaseless interactions.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works

“To make matters worse, I’m socially competent, which people tend to mistake for extroversion. This is so common that there was even a period of time I talked myself into thinking I was, indeed, an extrovert.”
― Joshua Fields Millburn, Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works