The Connected Child Quotes

“Start the healing process by keeping a journal of your child's daily activities and behavior, marking down routine events along with the behavior that accompanies these events. After about a week or two of journaling, parents find that patterns emerge.”
― Karyn B. Purvis, The Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family

“When your child feels truly safe, doors swing open to positive change.”
― Karyn Purvis, The Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family

“Parents who are seriously committed to helping a troubled and challenged child thrive will vastly increase their odds of success by making a fundamental policy decision: to slow down their lives and put their child's needs first.”
― Karyn B. Purvis, The Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family

“Only a secure mother can say, "Tell me what hurts, sweetheart," and listen attentively and respectfully to the answer. When an adult is avoiding her own history, entangled in her past, or disorganized about her losses, she can't accurately assess and respond to a harmed child's reality. Only a secure mother can find the heart of the highest-risk child.”
― Karyn B. Purvis, The Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family

“Not all models of professional therapeutic play are identical. Some therapies take a passive, unstructured approach, and these are not effective for at-risk children with a history of neglect or orphanage rearing.”
― Karyn B. Purvis, The Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family

“time.) Mother: “Susie, now Mommy is leaving you here with Mrs. Johnson. You know Mommy is your boss, but while I’m gone Mrs. Johnson will be your boss. I want you to listen to her and obey her just like you listen to Mommy. Okay?” Child: “Okay.”
― Karyn B. Purvis, The Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family