Vagina Problems Quotes

“And in many ways, people who live with chronic pain are grieving. We are grieving for the lives we could’ve had, but don’t, because of pain.”
― Lara Parker, Vagina Problems: Endometriosis, Painful Sex, and Other Taboo Topics

“Being mad at my own body for something it has no control over only succeeded in making everything hurt even more.”
― Lara Parker, Vagina Problems: Endometriosis, Painful Sex, and Other Taboo Topics

“This is all your life is, just a series of bad pain days over and over and over again. What is the point? How will you be able to do this for another ten years? Why would anyone ever want to spend their life with you if this is how it is? How would you ever be able to start a family if you wanted one? What is the point of your life? Why do you even exist if you’re just going to be in pain all the time? People are tired of hearing you complain about it. It’s endless. It’s all you talk about. It’s all you are.”
― Lara Parker, Vagina Problems: Endometriosis, Painful Sex, and Other Taboo Topics

“Despite knowing for a fact that this pain and these illnesses are not my fault, that’s hard to remember on the bad days. I begin to blame myself and then feel ashamed that I caused someone else to pause their life to help me through something that my brain is telling me I caused.”
― Lara Parker, Vagina Problems: Endometriosis, Painful Sex, and Other Taboo Topics

“Sex was everywhere. And since I couldn’t have it, at least not in the way that I felt was expected of me at the time, I believed that no one would ever want to be with me, and no one would ever be able to love me. I felt broken and incomplete.”
― Lara Parker, Vagina Problems: Endometriosis, Painful Sex, and Other Taboo Topics

“The world is shit most of the time, but it’s made shittier when we try to talk about our shit and are told that we’re not allowed to think of our lives as shit because someone else’s shit smells worse. Shit is shit. There’s a lot of shit—it’s a big world, and there’s unfortunately room for all our shit.”
― Lara Parker, Vagina Problems: Endometriosis, Painful Sex, and Other Taboo Topics

“I do not believe that someone’s honesty about their pain or heartache is wrong simply because someone else in the world also has heartache. It’s not a fucking competition.”
― Lara Parker, Vagina Problems: Endometriosis, Painful Sex, and Other Taboo Topics

“Most of what I was taught about sex was bullshit. Most of what the majority of us are taught about sex is bullshit, for that matter, but it’s extra bullshit for women.”
― Lara Parker, Vagina Problems: Endometriosis, Painful Sex, and Other Taboo Topics

“I do not believe in the idea that going through pain like this is something to be grateful for. That it somehow makes me a stronger person, or more empathetic. I am not grateful for my pain. But I am grateful for the person I have become in spite of it.”
― Lara Parker, Vagina Problems

“Being honest and upfront about the very real limitations I experience because of my pain is not “being a pessimist.” People are allowed to feel how they feel, myself included. It is not up to others to decide whether or not the emotions someone is experiencing are valid or not. No one on earth was appointed Gatekeeper of Valid Emotions.”
― Lara Parker, Vagina Problems: Endometriosis, Painful Sex, and Other Taboo Topics

“When I was seeing this guy, I fully believed that being loved by someone was synonymous with having a sexual relationship with them. And I believed this because it was what I had been told time and time again by TV shows, commercials, magazines, and movies.”
― Lara Parker, Vagina Problems: Endometriosis, Painful Sex, and Other Taboo Topics

“People still feel uncomfortable when I bring up my vagina. Viagra is still being easily covered by insurance while people sometimes have to lie and say the physical therapy they are getting for their vagina is actually for their back so that insurance will cover it, and we still don’t have anything close to an accessible treatment plan for any of it. Millions of people live with conditions similar to mine, but stigma, shame, and lack of awareness keep us all from talking about and normalizing it.”
― Lara Parker, Vagina Problems: Endometriosis, Painful Sex, and Other Taboo Topics