How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division Quotes

“Motherlands are castles made of glass. In order to leave them, you have to break something – a wall, a social convention, a cultural norm, a psychological barrier, a heart. What you have broken will haunt you. To be an emigré, therefore, means to forever bear shards of glass in your pockets. It is easy to forget they are there, light and minuscule as they are, and go on with your life, your little ambitions and important plans, but at the slightest contact the shards will remind you of their presence. They will cut you deep.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“We live in an age in which there is too much information, less knowledge and even less wisdom. That ratio needs to be reversed. We definitely need less information, more knowledge, and much more wisdom.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“The moment we stop listening to diverse opinions is also when we stop learning. Because the truth is we don’t learn much from sameness and monotony. We usually learn from differences.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“when you feel alone don’t look within, look out and look beyond for others who feel the same way, for there are always others, and if you can connect with them and with their story, you will be able to see everything in a new light.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“Knowledge requires reading. Books. In-depth analyses. Investigative journalism. Then there is wisdom, which connects the mind and the heart, activates emotional intelligence, expands empathy. For that we need stories and storytelling.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“We must strive to become intellectual nomads, keep moving, keep learning, resist confining ourselves in any cultural or mental ghetto, and spend more time not in select centres but at the margins, which is where real change always comes from.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“In a world that is ever shifting and unpredictable, I've come to believe it is totally fine not to feel fine. It is perfectly okay not be okay. If truth be told, if from time to time, you do not catch yourself overwhelmed and exhausted, or even incandescent, maybe you are not really following what is going on - here, there and everywhere.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“Who Am I? Do I have a single identity - based on nationality, ethnicity, religion, class, gender or geography? Or am I essentially a mixture of multiple belongings, cultural allegiances and diverse inheritances, backgrounds and trajectories? How we define our identity will shape our next steps.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“Seven days a week we are forced to contend with bleak feelings, thought rarely do we have the time or the will to give them serious consideration.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“A human being, every human being, is complicated - layers upon layers of ideas, feelings, perceptions, recollections, reactions, desires and dreams. By placing us into boxes they are denying us our own truth. By placing others into boxes we are denying them their own truth. And so it goes.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“The thing about groupthink or social media bubbles is that they aggressively feed and amplify repetition. And repetition, however familiar and comforting, will never challenge us mentally, emotionally or behaviorally. Echoes simply reiterate what has already been said at some point in time, long gone. Like dead stars, they might seem to have a presence from a distance, but in truth, they are completely devoid of life and light. Echo chambers, therefore, severely limit the breadth and depth of the views we subject ourselves to, they ration knowledge. And, at the same time, they limit wisdom: wisdom which connects the mind and the heart, activates emotional intelligence, expands empathy and understanding, allows us to reach beyond the lonely confines of our own minds and engage with the rest of humanity, to listen to them and learn from them. To leave one echo chamber for another is not a solution either. We must strive to become intellectual nomads, keep moving, keep learning, resist confining ourselves in any cultural or mental ghetto, and spend more time not in select centers but at the margins, which is where real change always comes from.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“If wanting to be heard is one side of the coin, the other side is being willing to listen. The two are inextricably connected. When convinced that no one – especially those in places of power and privilege – is really paying attention to our protests and demands we will be less inclined to listen to others, particularly to people whose views differ from ours.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“be deprived of a voice means to be deprived of agency over our own lives. It also means to slowly but systematically become alienated from our own journeys, struggles and inner transformations, and begin to view even our most subjective experiences as though through someone else’s eyes, an external gaze. ‘There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you’, wrote the poet, author and civil rights activist Maya Angelou.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“Do not be afraid of complexity.
Be afraid of people who promise an easy shortcut to simplicity.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“In badly fractured societies that have lost their appreciation of diversity and their regard for pluralism, opponents will be seen as enemies, politics will become replete with marital metaphors and anyone who thinks and speaks differently will be labeled as a 'traitor'.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“People who have much to say, a distinctive story to tell, often do not do so because they fear their words will fall on deaf ears. They feel excluded from political power and, to a large extent, from political and civic participation. Even if they were to shout their grievances from the rooftops of Westminster – or Brussels or Washington or New Delhi – they doubt it would have the slightest impact on public policy.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“If wanting to be heard is one side of the coin, the other side is being willing to listen.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“Stories bring us together, untold stories keep us apart.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“The question ‘where are you from?’ has always mattered to me, and felt deeply personal, albeit equally complicated. For a long time it was the one question I dreaded being asked. ‘I am from multiple places,’ I wanted to be able to say in return. ‘I come from many cities and cultures, plural and diverse, but I am also from the ruins and remnants of these, from the memories and forgettings, from the stories and silences.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“If truth be told, if from time to time you do not catch yourself overwhelmed with worry and indecision, demoralised and exhausted, or even incandescent, maybe you are not really following what is going on – here, there and everywhere.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“Who, if I cried out, would hear me among the humans’ hierarchies?”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“It seems to me, more and more, we are pain, and hurt, and loneliness covered with skin.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“The truth is, there are plenty of negative sentiments all around and within us - anger, fear, discontent, distrust, sadness, suspicion, constant self-doubt...but perhaps more than anything, an ongoing apprehension. And existential angst. All these emotions are very much a part of our lives now. Even digital spaces have become primarily emotional spaces. The posts that go viral or the videos that are watched most widely are freighted with emotions. What is equally significant is how this creates a tendency, a habit of mind, that perpetuates itself through space and time.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“Unlike what nationalist demagogues claim, belonging is not a once-and-for-all condition, a static identity tattooed on our skin; it is a constant self-examination and dynamic revision of where we are, who we are, and where we want to be.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“Once we have witnessed the suffering, the injustice, the immorality, what do we do next? Do we tell our eyes to forget what they have seen, tell our mouths to not whisper a word, tell our hearts to go numb, slowly? Or de we choose to speak up, speak out, connect, organise, mobilese and demand justice until justice is served?”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“Zbog toga ne moći ispričati svoju priču, biti ušutkan i isključen znači biti dehumaniziran. A to pogađa samo ljudsko postojanje; tjera čovjeka da posumnja u svoje psihičko zdravlje, valjanost svoju inačicu događaja. U nama stvara duboku egzistencijalnu tjeskobu.
Gubitkom glasa nešto u nama umire.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“Biti lišen glasa znači biti lišen utjecaja na vlastiti život.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“it’s hard to resist the inclination to manage the downswing in our mental state on our own, and to keep a tight rein on our worries at all times. Also, we want to look strong. Emotions, we are taught to believe, make us look weak.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“we, too, find ourselves falling ill due to the state of uncertainty we are surrounded with – betwixt and between,* neither capable of letting go of the old order that made us increasingly unhappy nor capable of building a new world with solutions from lessons learned. We are exhausted by anxiety, consumed with anger, our minds and defences all too often overwhelmed.”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division

“I have often wondered what resides in an accent. Is it a presence - an identity, a trajectory, a history? Or is it rather an absence - an estrangement, a withdrawal, a blank space refusing to be filled?”
― Elif Shafak, How to Stay Sane in an Age of Division