The Person Quotes

“E. Tory Higgins (1987) suggests that self-knowledge encompasses three major domains: the actual self, the ideal self, and the ought self. The actual self consists of your representation of the attributes that someone (yourself or another) believes that you actually possess. The ideal self consists of your representation of the attributes that someone (yourself or another) would like you, ideally, to possess = that is a representation of hopes, aspirations, or wishes. The ought self consists of your representation of the attributes that someone believes you should or ought to possess - that is, a representation of duties, obligations or responsibilities. Discrepancies between the actual/own self and ideal selves lead to experiences of dejection-related emotions, such as sadness, disappointment and shame.”
― Dan P. McAdams, The Person: A New Introduction to Personality Psychology, Fourth Edition

“guilt serves as a check against immoral behavior...people who are susceptible to feeling guilt when they engage in immoral behavior tend, as a result, to steer clear of immoral behavior...Guilt is good for you (usually), and good for the group”
― Dan P. McAdams, The Person: A New Introduction to Personality Psychology, Fourth Edition

“extraverted people build rapport with others (unconsciously) mimicking their behaviour, moving their bodies in ways that channel, or mirror, the emotional states presented by others...a skill they can turn on or off, depending on what they are trying to accomplish”
― Dan P. McAdams, The Person: A New Introduction to Personality Psychology, Fourth Edition