The Rudest Book Ever Quotes

“If you need somebody else to tell you that you are special, then you have not done anything to earn it in your own mind.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“Knowledge can be borrowed, but you can’t borrow understanding. Once you reach a conclusion derived from your thinking, it is called a realisation. And once you realise something, your perception changes about it once and for all. And that perception remains locked down until another realisation impacts it—that’s the process of learning and growing.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“The problem with responding more to feeling good is that chances are you may become a person who just focuses on feelings rather than thinking. And thinking is the only thing that will ensure you don’t fuck up your life. Ideally, an intelligent person would be one who is more thinking-based than feeling-based.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“Learning of any kind that involves zero investment of your thinking produces only imitation.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“NOBODY IS BORN AN IDIOT”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“Stop attaching maturity, wisdom, enlightenment to ageing. He is old, hence he must be wise is one of the stupidest notions we take for granted.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“people don’t think they need to learn anything because they assume they already know everything—a very dangerous assumption that comes from a frightening absence of self-awareness.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“Those who hold prizes, positions and power are sources to learn from—and nothing else. You know nothing about their lives except for their abilities. Admire the fact that they have those abilities, and leave it at that.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“He is old, hence he must be wise is one of the stupidest notions we take for granted.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“We should admire heroic actions, encourage them and celebrate them; we should aspire towards incorporating them into our lives. But we should leave those people to be people, and to act like people—that’s a great thing they are doing, I really admire it—and spare the person from your dumb expectations and assumptions regarding things you have no data about.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“Status is a socially engineered identity that tends to replace the individual identity. So, status must not dictate who the person is. The person must dictate what to do with the status in accordance with how they feel about that status.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“If you can give it a definition, redirect it, and set them up to earn what they already want, you will have saved them years of confusion, embarrassment, self-imposed feelings of inferiority, foolish pursuits and a focus on weaknesses. You will instead have given them an attitude that will serve them for a lifetime.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“Always remember your job is not to understand people, but to understand and take care of yourself.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever: Insanely Practical Ideas To Free Your Mind From All Bullshit

“focusing—habits that will serve you in almost all aspects of life.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“Those who are able to find out what they want to do in life chase after greatness to prove to themselves that they are great at what they do. With time, they realise they don’t need anybody’s approval, as doing what they want to do gives them purpose, and fulfilling that purpose gives them satisfaction and a meaningful life.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“Specialness then becomes a collection of skills, and feeling special is the sensation felt on upgrading in life after having mastered a skill.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“Just because somebody is older doesn’t mean they have figured out life.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“What we have understood so far is: We need a general attitude towards rejections in life, rejections are normal, they happen. In terms of rejections from people, it becomes: rejections are a normal thing, and I don’t have to take them personally, because people are weird. Who knows what’s going on in their heads—it’s not my job to find out.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“The thing is, you were the happiest at your stupidest self—when you were young, in college, school, with your friends. You were experimenting with rebellion against structure, engaging in activities that produced rewards (like gaming), entertainment (with friends) and pleasure (partying, dating, alcohol, weed, fun). What you don’t realise is that, at that time, you could afford that experimentation. There was no real structure. You were free of any responsibilities, duties and”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“At this stage, enter dating gurus and pick-up artists. These are people who have suffered equal or more rejections than you, some of which impaled their egos so much that it forced them to make ‘getting girls’ a quest in their lives to prove to themselves they are ‘the man’. They usually like to refer to themselves as ‘alphas’ to massage their highly sensitive egos, which also acts as their G-spot during sex. What it means is that they climax immediately upon hearing a girl refer to them as alpha or its variations, such as master, daddy, which basically means they are their father. This is nothing but a crippling need to be validated by an impressionable girl with daddy issues living in a fantasy world. And these guys desperately require the reiteration of the terms alphas, master or daddy from girls to compensate for the rejections by girls in their past.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“yourself”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“The idea that a person who has several degrees is intelligent is a highly misplaced idea; but we think like that. So, in school, we teach kids to learn as much as they can. Learning can be achieved by hard work. What about teaching kids how to think? We don’t do that yet. A degree is a certificate of skills; therefore, someone with degrees is a person skilled in those subjects, not a fucking thinker. And without the ability to think critically and creatively, people largely remain unimaginative skilled workers.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“After making the self your authority, the need to follow anybody will cease to exist completely.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“Admire, never follow.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“it’s not only self-control, self-respect is equally important. While self-control takes care of inner demons, self-respect takes care of enemies outside. Without self-respect, you leave yourself open for people to take over and become your authority. You don’t want examples for this, you have seen this shit happen all around you: people doing anything to make someone happy, disregarding their self, their own wants, plans, everything. And not just for love, this happens all over the world for approval, acceptance and self-worth. Yikes. So, self-respect ensures nobody fucks with your authority over your own mind, feelings and wants.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“Let’s think about this: You care so much about what others think about you because you are working under the assumption that people care about you just as much as you do. Well, my friend, welcome to reality—they don’t.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“Before dragging yourself down or someone else down, always remind yourself they haven’t lived a day in your shoes, and you haven’t in theirs.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“themselves for a long time, like an evening or so. I mean wow. Imagine how great it must feel being told you are special by complete strangers or humans you have wanted to impress for a painfully long time. I imagine it must feel great. It is probably your parents whose approval you have longed”
― Shwetabh Gagwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“understand this: because somebody is older does not mean that they have achieved wisdom. Most older people are children who have aged. One of the stupidest things humans instinctively do is associate wisdom or intellect with ageing. Whether people choose to or not, they age. Nothing in the process of ageing ensures the development of intellectual capacity. You will remain ignorant if you don’t”
― Shwetabh Gagwar, The Rudest Book Ever

“What does your self want?
What the self wants comes only by knowing the specific wants that makes sense to self.”
― Shwetabh Gangwar, The Rudest Book Ever: Insanely Practical Ideas To Free Your Mind From All Bullshit