You Don't Look Adopted Quotes

“The problem is that part of my brain likes the ache of longing more than it likes the safety of your company.”
― Anne Heffron, You Don't Look Adopted

“Most of my life I have felt both real and not real.”
― Anne Heffron, You Don't Look Adopted

“I was always longing for something. Longing in my body was so familiar I didn’t usually notice the feeling; that would have been like a magnet experiencing its own field, the pull toward, the hungry mouth. It was easy to mistake the emptiness of longing as something that wanted filling with M&M’s, time with friends, new clothes, accomplishments, a boyfriend, and it was also easy to be frightened by the ceaseless dark cave call of I am alone and I may die.”
― Anne Heffron, You Don't Look Adopted

“Adopted people aren’t much different from non-adopted people. They just live with more questions. They are the human experience intensified.”
― Anne Heffron, You Don't Look Adopted

“Even if I don’t like you much, I have to keep trying to convince you to love me because the force controlling the wheel in my brain is telling me this is an urgent matter.”
― Anne Heffron, You Don't Look Adopted

“Since an infant is born with a sense of self not separate from the mother, I believe part of my brain took a nosedive in the gap between mothers, and part of my brain decided I must not exist, and in some crazy unexplainable way, nothing changed in that part of my brain, even as an adult.”
― Anne Heffron, You Don't Look Adopted