Passionista Quotes

“SEX IS THE MAIN way guys express their emotions. Making love is our way of saying “I love you” and truly feeling it, as well as really meaning it. While women generally deem closeness a prerequisite for engaging in sex, for a man, having sex is the main way of achieving a true sense of closeness with a woman. Brain”
― Ian Kerner, Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man

“Anthropologists have long observed that women are “face-to-face” communicators, while men do so “side-by side.” This means that women are much more comfortable with direct eye contact, which probably has a lot to do with the female history of nursing, cuddling, and generally fawning over their infants all the while staring lovingly into those big baby eyes. Men, on the other hand, find direct eye contact extremely confrontational. As Helen Fisher wrote in her remarkable book, Why We Love, “this response probably stems from men’s ancestry. For many millennia men faced their enemies; they sat or walked side by side as they hunted game with their friends.”
― Ian Kerner, Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man

“hugging each other at least three times a day: once before leaving for work, a second time when arriving home, and a third time before going to sleep. If you do nothing else, hug three times—but truly hug.”
― Ian Kerner, Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man

“For many millennia men faced their enemies; they sat or walked side by side as they hunted game with their friends.” So unless you want your words to send him into battle, use evolution to your advantage and have a sex talk with him while taking a walk or drive, or just sitting comfortably next to each other on the couch. Prepare”
― Ian Kerner, Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man

“Fantasy also helps your mind to shut down, an important component of the female orgasm. A recent study in which male and female brains were scanned during sexual arousal revealed that women virtually fall into a ‘trance’ during orgasm and that this brain “deactivity” is necessary for a female to orgasm. A big part of female arousal, much more so than of male arousal, seems to be deep relaxation and a lack of anxiety. Fantasy helps that happen. Says”
― Ian Kerner, Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man

“To live in society, we all require a degree of control. Too much control, however, and we can become automatons. Control is always being right. Control is not letting your feelings influence your life. Control is not letting the joy of life be a goal. Control is not expressing your feelings. Control is being neutral or neuter. Control is not being sensual. Control is lessening the enjoyment of sex. Control is not being aware or responsive to the feelings of others, since you are not aware of your own feelings. Control is always being on an even emotional plane.   I”
― Ian Kerner, Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man

“When the Tigress plays, the dragon whips its tail.”
― Ian Kerner, Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man