The Gap and The Gain Quotes

“Becoming self-determined is very difficult in today’s world. The noise and distractions are relentless, making it nearly impossible to truly make yourself your own reference point, and to have an internal compass. Beyond the conditioning of external comparisons and competing we get in public education, we now have technology that is literally designed to addict and control us.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“To be free, you must be self-determined, which is to say that you must be able to control your own destiny in your own interests.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Define success on your own terms, achieve it by your own rules, and build a life you’re proud to live.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Training yourself to be happy is completely internal. There is no external progress, no external validation. You’re competing against yourself—it is a single-player game.”6 Happiness cannot come from something outside of yourself.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“The way to measure your progress is backward against where you started, not against your ideal.” —Dan Sullivan”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Remember, the goal isn’t to never go into the GAP. Instead, the goal is to get yourself out as soon as you can.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“You are 100 percent disciplined to your existing set of habits.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“In performance psychology, there is a concept known as implementation intentions, which is a strategy to plan for the worst—so you can perform your best.26”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“One thing that makes it possible to be an optimist is if you have a contingency plan for when all hell breaks loose. There are a lot of things I don’t worry about, because I have a plan in place if they do.” —Randy Pausch25”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Give Yourself 5 Minutes in the GAP, Then Move Forward”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“If we took away everything you went into the GAP about, how much would you have?” “Not much” was their response.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“By imagining that your greatest achievements or progress never occurred, you can see how far you’ve actually come.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Comparison makes you unhappy, and there’s no end to comparison in the world, if that’s the path you choose.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“The meaning of life is whatever you ascribe it to be.” —Joseph Campbell14”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“The rule is simple: the person who fails the most will win. If I fail more than you do, I will win. Because in order to keep failing, you’ve got to be good enough to keep playing.”12,13”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Winners don’t have a to-do list. They have a ‘done’ list.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Being in the GAIN means you measure yourself backward, against where you were before.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“The reason the hedonic treadmill exists is because people aren’t taught how to be happy. Ideals are meant to provide direction, motivation, and meaning to our lives. They are not the measuring stick. Our society has trained us to measure ourselves against our ideals, which by definition are unreachable.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“the hedonic treadmill.”9 When you’re on this treadmill, you’re working harder and harder to be happy but staying exactly where you started.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“hedonic adaptation. It’s the tendency of humans to quickly adapt to where they are and what they’ve got. It leads to never being satisfied, and to constantly seeking the next thing. 7”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“If you focus on what you lack, you lose what you have. If you focus on what you have, you gain what you lack.”6”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“The day you stop racing is the day you win the race.” —Bob Marley”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“probably why you’re unhappy with everything in your life. “You’re measuring yourself in the GAP.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“in ‘the GAIN,’ appreciating all that you’ve accomplished.” —Dan Sullivan”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Your future growth and progress are now based in your understanding about the difference between the two ways in which you can measure yourself: against an ideal, which puts you in what I call ‘the GAP,’ and against your starting point, which puts you”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“And with every step you take forward, you get to measure backward and become increasingly humbled at how far you’ve come.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“No one can replicate you when you’re in the GAIN, because no one has the same experiences you’re having—and no one can transform your experiences into GAINS the way you do. You’ve already made it this far. Look back at where you were when you started. What are you going to do now? How far are you going to go? You get to decide that.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“However, for many people, their lives are all experience and no learning.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“The Experience Transformer is a thought process that will enable you to quickly transform the intensity of both negative and positive situations into lessons, innovations, and breakthroughs in both your personal and business lives.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“The results are clear: mental subtraction is one of the most effective science-based techniques for boosting gratitude and happiness.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success