The Gap and The Gain Quotes

“Seth Godin said: “The rule is simple: the person who fails the most will win. If I fail more than you do, I will win. Because in order to keep failing, you’ve got to be good enough to keep playing.”12,13”
― Benjamin Hardy, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“If you focus on what you lack, you lose what you have. If you focus on what you have, you gain what you lack.”6”
― Benjamin Hardy, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“The way to measure your progress is backward against where you started, not against your ideal.” —Dan Sullivan”
― Benjamin Hardy, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Happiness is not something you pursue. Happiness is not somewhere in the future. Decades of scientific research is clear on this point: happiness is where you start, not where you finish.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Sometimes the greatest scientific breakthroughs happen because someone ignores the prevailing pessimism.” –Nessa Carey, British biologist1”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Everything in life happens FOR you, not TO you.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Being in the GAIN means you measure yourself backward, against where you were before. You measure your own progress. You don’t compare yourself to something external. You don’t measure yourself against your ideals.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Harmonious passion is related to having high levels of grit, whereas obsessive passion is not.23 If you’re obsessively passionate, you’re thinking short-term. You’re trying to force things to go your way. But you don’t truly want whatever it is you’re seeking. You just think you need it because you’re unresolved internally. Whether you get what you want or not, sooner or later you’ll shift that unhealthy need onto something else—the hedonic treadmill will continue. Similar to harmonious passion, intrinsic motivation is also related to having high levels of grit, whereas extrinsic motivation is not.24”
― Benjamin P. Hardy, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“If you focus on what you lack, you lose what you have. If you focus on what you have, you gain what you lack.”
― Benjamin P. Hardy, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“What preoccupies us is the way we define success.” —Arianna Huffington”
― Benjamin Hardy, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Being fixated on outside reference points puts you in the GAP. Being directed by your own internal reference points strengthens being in the GAIN.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Our current system of teaching kids to sit in straight rows and obey instructions isn’t a coincidence—it was an investment in our economic future. The plan: trade short-term child labor wages for longer-term productivity by giving kids a head start in doing what they’re told.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“The goal of the education system was definitely NOT for those children to become leaders or creative thinkers”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“CHAPTER TAKEAWAYS The GAP is based on an unhealthy “need” or attachment to something outside of yourself. The GAP means you’re still trying to free yourself FROM something”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“You exercise free will and choice.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“In the classic book Escape from Freedom,26 Erich Fromm defines two types of freedom: Freedom from (which is external) Freedom to (which is internal) To be free from is to be no one’s slave”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Faith knows it has already received and acts accordingly.”25”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Playing a longer game allows you to embrace being “here.” Yes”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“obsessive passion actually stops you from being in a flow state—or the state of being fully immersed in what you’re doing.16 Instead”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Research shows that obsessive passion stops you from being mindful.14,15”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“As the famed entrepreneur and investor Naval Ravikant said: “Training yourself to be happy is completely internal. There is no external progress”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Needing anything outside of yourself is a form of being in the GAP.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Research in psychology shows that confidence is not what creates success”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“broaden-and-build theory of psychology first introduced by Dr. Barbara L. Fredrickson”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“When you’re in the GAP about someone else”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Seth Godin said: “The rule is simple: the person who fails the most will win. If I fail more than you do”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“The GAIN is about real “measurables,” not ideals.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“When you’re in the GAIN”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Psychology has a term for this moving horizon”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

“Her raise was bigger than my raise.”
― Dan Sullivan, The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success