This Too Shall Pass Quotes

“What is important is to come to an understanding together as to what the other person's 'language of love' is: do they feel loved through gestures, words or physical contact? What turns them off? when we learn how our partner best receives love, it enables us to be more confident when we give it and helps create a positive cycle.”
― Julia Samuel, This Too Shall Pass: Stories of Change, Crisis and Hopeful Beginnings

“There is no difference in the objective compatibility between those couples who are unhappy and those who are happy.' Hudson found that couple who feel 'content and warmth in their relationship' don't believe having compatible personalities is the issue. On the contrary, they believe it was their attitude that made the relationship work. The strength of the relationship does not depend on how alike they are, more their willingness to adapt and build a bank of warmth and affection that helps buffer the annoyance of their differences. This supports the concept of the development of compatibility, having a growth mindset('I believe I can change') rather than a fixed mindset ('This is how I am'). Having an attitude of growth means going through difficulties and seeing them as an opportunity to know each other better and bolster the relationship through the resolution of the conflict.”
― Julia Samuel, This Too Shall Pass: Stories of Change, Crisis and Hopeful Beginnings

“An adult is a person who is accountable for their actions, how they affect others, as well as themselves, has higher impulse control than when they were young, and has the discipline to follow through on commitments.”
― Julia Samuel, This Too Shall Pass: Stories of Change, Crisis and Hopeful Beginnings

“what they need to do to manage it, they fare better. Those who choose active coping strategies, like talking about how they feel, fare better.”
― Julia Samuel, This Too Shall Pass: Stories of Change, Crisis and Hopeful Beginnings

“Anger cannot be argues away: that increases it. It needs to be listened to, and understood, to reduce its forces”
― Julia Samuel, This Too Shall Pass: Stories of Change, Crisis and Hopeful Beginnings

“Today we live in a highly connected world through travel, technology and globalization. In contrast, our internal systems have not adapted as fast as these changes. Primitively we are wired to see differences as a potential threat to our existence: 'stranger danger”
― Julia Samuel, This Too Shall Pass: Stories of Change, Crisis and Hopeful Beginnings

“Making meaning of our life, as opposed to seeking happiness, leads to long-term wellbeing.”
― Julia Samuel, This Too Shall Pass: Stories of Change, Crisis and Hopeful Beginnings