Психологическое айкидо Quotes

“Don’t pay attention to the people mocking you. “Don’t answer the fool according to his folly or you will be like him yourself”.”
― Mikhail Litvak, Psychological Aikido

“слова не воспитывают; дети становятся такими, как их родители, только еще хуже; детям надо показать, как жить, а не рассказать.”
― Михаил Литвак, Психологическое айкидо

“It should be noted that a psychological aikido specialist gives his principal agreement at once. Then there comes the discussion of details. Of course, the final result must be as I want it. But after discussion it becomes clear that my refusal is connected with circumstances, and I keep good relations with the person whom I finally refused. The ground for the further cooperation remains, when the circumstances change. And if the first offer was insincere, the things clear up immediately.”
― Mikhail Litvak, Psychological Aikido

“We should note that it is absolutely impossible to refuse the promotion, which your boss has offered you. After all, he is waiting for a positive answer from you. The refusal is taken as an insult. It turns out that the boss had thought badly when he made his subordinate such an offer. And I, the subordinate, understand things better than he. The promotion refusal often gives this person’s career up for lost under this boss. But if you are sure you can handle the offered position, you may extend the responsibility for you promotion to your boss. “John, thank you for the offer. Of course I accept it, though it is a bit unexpected for me, I hadn’t thought that I was ready for such a position. I must have been mistaken. You know better”.”
― Mikhail Litvak, Psychological Aikido

“This algorithm was successfully used by the women under my supervision, who were praised by the men, to whom they didn’t feel profound interest. “Thank you for the compliments. They are sincere, and you won’t wish to get into my bed after those compliments, as some men do”.”
― Mikhail Litvak, Psychological Aikido

“Psychological stroking” A.: You look perfect today! B.: Thank you for a compliment! I am glad you have noticed that. I really don’t look bad today.”
― Mikhail Litvak, Psychological Aikido

“want to accentuate again — the essence of psychological aikido is in the ability to model your behaviour, which will naturally lead to your partner’s change in behaviour. Before communicating, you simply think what kind of verbal or behavioural answer you want to receive. After all, the answer of your partner to your question is forced. They can’t answer differently.”
― Mikhail Litvak, Psychological Aikido

“Train the ability to look in such a way at inanimate objects. Look carefully at an object, look as long as you can. When your gaze suddenly turns away from the object, shift it back to it. Do this exercise daily for 15–20 minutes. You will notice in some time, that your concentration has improved. Many people note that objects and people become entirely different, beautiful, and even splendid. Such a look results when you manage to relax the muscles of your face.”
― Mikhail Litvak, Psychological Aikido

“Unlike physical combats, psychological aikido has one peculiarity. There are neither winners nor losers here, that’s the peculiarity of this psychological fight. That’s how in fighting for my own victory I simultaneously forge victory to my partner.”
― Mikhail Litvak, Psychological Aikido

“Some other people (usually those with very strong personalities, often bosses) demand unquestionable subordination at home and at work. They stop noticing a gradually growing discontent of the people depending on them. When all the means of suppression are exhausted, they notice with pain or surprise that everybody has left them. They consider themselves to be deceived.”
― Mikhail Litvak, Psychological Aikido

“But you may consider the brave soldier Shweik to be the forefather of this system. He didn’t answer the insults of his offenders, but agreed with them. “Shweik, you are an idiot!” – He was told. He didn’t argue but agreed at once – “Yes, I’m an idiot!” and gained a victory without touching his opponent, as in aikido.”
― Mikhail Litvak, Psychological Aikido

“Thus, the club of psycho-preventive and psycho-correction direction was founded. We call it CROSS (Club of the Resolute to Overcome Stressful Situations). Here, people who have interpersonal problems in the family or at work, come to us for guidance. We try to help them regulate communication instead of prescribing medicine.”
― Mikhail Litvak, Psychological Aikido