Unfuck Your Anger Quotes

“AHEN is as simple a conceptualization as you can get. Anger emerges from Hurt Expectations not met Needs not met”
― Faith G. Harper, Unfuck Your Anger: Using Science to Understand Frustration, Rage, and Forgiveness

“Uncontrolled anger versus manipulative anger can be differentiated by how the angry person reacts when they get their way.”
― Faith G. Harper, Unfuck Your Anger: Using Science to Understand Frustration, Rage, and Forgiveness

“The presumption is that an anger response provokes the fight response. But that isn’t necessarily true. The fight/flight/freeze response is a survival response, not a dominance response. Which means that our brain is doing some background calculation of how to best survive the threat it has detected. We fight if fighting is our best chance for survival, but fleeing the situation may make more survival sense. And there is lots of evolutionary evidence that freezing is also a great protective response if we can’t overwhelm or outrun our attacker. It numbs the pain of attack, and sometimes confuses the attacker into thinking we’re already dead, therefore, uninteresting.”
― Faith G. Harper, Unfuck Your Anger: Using Science to Understand Frustration, Rage, and Forgiveness

“We have brains equipped for more primitive survival that aren’t intuitively adapted to the modern age. Technology has evolved faster than humans, so we have bodies adapted for simpler times. Instead of hunting, gathering, cuddling, and napping, we are crossing more terrain on a daily basis, interacting with more people, and taking in far more information than we are built to manage. It’s a continuous overload.”
― Faith G. Harper, Unfuck Your Anger: Using Science to Understand Frustration, Rage, and Forgiveness