When I Found You Quotes

“Most people prefer to think that their resentment is entirely the fault of the person they resent, and that twisted logic seems to make sense in their minds. But it makes no sense to me at all... But it's a popular point of view. Probably because it's so much easier. It relieves you of the burden of any and all self-examination.
(Nathan to Nat)”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“The fact that you don’t grasp the meaning of something doesn’t mean it has none.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“Whatever you think your shortcomings are...you can't just lock yourself in the house so no one can notice or comment. We all have to take ourselves out into the world, flaws and all. And find a way to make the adjustment.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“Meaning…they say the best way to judge what a man will do is by looking at what he’s done in the past.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“The value of your life is your own choosing,”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“I feel that the truth is simply the truth. And that to shield someone from it is only a manner of treating that person with a lack of respect.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“All the boundaries of the world disappeared after a good snow. Nathan had always noticed that. The seemingly sturdy, dependable dividing lines between his yard and his neighbor's yard, or the sidewalk and the street, simply disappeared. Erased by white.

As if the world were advising him not to put too much faith in such markings. That perhaps these lines had never been entirely real to begin with.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“The value of your life is your own choosing,” Nathan”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“All I know is that you can’t force yourself to feel something you don’t.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“Why the remarkable commitment?” “Why not?” Nathan asked. “What else have I done with my life that’s remarkable?”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“You can’t tell someone to pursue their dream only if it’s a good match for your own. You can’t dictate what dream he should pursue.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“There’s two things you can do with a kid like that. Way I see it. You can burst his bubble. Or you can wait and let life burst it. Let life do the dirty work for you. If you burst it he’ll hate you forever. And he’ll never really believe he couldn’t have made it. He’ll always think it’s your fault for standing in his way. For not having more faith in him. Now, life. When life bursts your bubble, well. It’s a little harder to argue with life.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“The value of your life is your own choosing,” Nathan said.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“Most people prefer to think that their resentment is entirely the fault of the person they resent, and that twisted logic seems to make sense in their minds. But it makes no sense to me at all. It’s like saying it’s your fault if I shoot you, because the gun is aiming at you. It completely disregards who’s doing the aiming. But it’s a popular point of view. Probably because it’s so much easier. It relieves you of the burden of any and all self-examination. You don’t have to understand it now … Just file it away with everything else I’ve said that sounds like a foreign language to you. Maybe you’ll learn a new language someday. Some people do. It depends how important it is to them to see things differently.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“World is full of people so troubled they don’t even understand themselves. You could offer them a thousand dollars to explain their motivations, but they can’t tell you what they don’t know.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“I have always felt,” Nathan said, “that the truth is simply the truth. And perhaps does not exist for us to bend and revise. Or even filter to suit the feelings of those we love and want to protect.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“You think passion is enough. That it’s all you really need. You think if something’s just really, really important to you, it’ll magically appear. Well, passion is all well and good. You won’t get nowhere without it. But it’s not the whole enchilada. You still gotta go step-by-step like everybody else.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“Most big life events are like that. You think they'll be emotionally one-sided, but when you actually get into them, it's always more complex.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“What a man eats, he should be willing to kill. It’s not absolutely necessary that he do so, but he should at least be willing to face the reality of it. To eat a chicken only if it comes from the market is the height of cowardice and denial. Someone still had to kill it.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“And the best way to make someone unhappy, if not downright unbalanced, is to tell her that what she sees with her own eyes is not there at all.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“the truth is simply the truth. And perhaps does not exist for us to bend and revise. Or even filter to suit the feelings of those we love and want to protect.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“truth is simply the truth. And perhaps does not exist for us to bend and revise. Or even filter”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“It depends how important it is to them to see things differently.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“In the beginnings of that silence, he knew something. Clearly. Once you throw down that gauntlet of ultimatum, the “one more thing” will happen. Nat figured it probably wouldn’t even matter much what it was. It would be the straw that broke her. And it had been defined. Prepared for. So it would happen. It was only a matter of time.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“World is full of people so troubled they don’t even understand themselves. You could offer them a thousand dollars to explain their motivations, but they can’t tell you what they don’t know. And most of those miserable creatures find their way through here soon enough. So, I’m sorry, Mr. McCann. If there was a reason, it died with her. But if you ask me, it’s a question that never had an answer. Because there’s just no explanation that makes a lick of sense.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“His grandfather probably would have said that all men feel fear, but cowardly men deny it.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“No. It’s not your job to convince him. It’s his job to believe it. This is his shortcoming, not yours. He needs to think well enough of himself to believe it. And that’s always been a problem for him.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“Nothing’s more dangerous than a girl,”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“No happy marriage was, in his estimation, ever based on thoughtless, automatic untruths and exclusions. And the best way to make someone unhappy, if not downright unbalanced, is to tell her that what she sees with her own eyes is not there at all.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You

“She didn’t dig, or in any other way affect the pile of leaves. She just stood with her nose twitching, as if the earth under her feet might harbor an inexhaustible supply of abandoned newborns. And that another might be just about to surface.”
― Catherine Ryan Hyde, When I Found You