Wired for Intimacy Quotes

“Each time that an unhealthy sexual pattern is repeated, a neurological, emotional and spiritual erosion carves out a channel that will eventually develop into a canyon from which there is no escape.”
― William M. Struthers, Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain

“Pornography is the consumption of sexual poison that becomes part of the fabric of the mind.”
― William M. Struthers, Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain

“The process of sanctification is an addiction to holiness, a compulsive fixation on Christ and an impulsive pattern of compassion, virtue and love. This is what we are wired for. This is what we are meant for.”
― William M. Struthers, Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain

“There is little research being done on the neurological basis of porn addiction. In part this is because it is not seen as necessary. Pornography is legal and acknowledging it as harmful is not politically convenient, so there are not many federal grants to fund research on it; that is the social reality.”
― William M. Struthers, Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain

“If I were a transgendered lesbian—a woman trapped in a man’s body (gender identity) with a sexual orientation toward females—would my behavior be any different than a heterosexual man’s?”
― William M. Struthers, Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain

“It is immortals whom we joke with, work with, marry, snub, and exploit—immortal horrors or everlasting splendors. (Lewis, 1977, pp. 14-15)”
― William M. Struthers, Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain

“I once heard a pastor say, “Everyone in life is a winner because you were once a sperm that won the race to the ovum.” I didn’t have the heart to tell him that if he followed this line of reproductive reasoning, it only meant that genetically half of everyone is a “winner.” The other half was waiting around and hoping not to be discarded.”
― William M. Struthers, Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain

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― William M. Struthers, Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain

“While many men indulge
freely without any notion of restraint, others are repulsed by their response to pornography. The arousal that they experience sexually is accompanied by a conflicting sense of shame, guilt and/ or anxiety. Such men have a sense that something is just not right about what they are doing.
The nagging voice is repressed while viewing pornography, but afterward there is a gnawing sense that we shouldn't have looked. We intuitively know that what we saw was not meant for us. We have intruded into someone's intimate space. To the properly oriented conscience, viewing pornography elicits a healthy sense of guilt. To the seared conscience, one that has been ground down by abuse, fear, selfishness or repeated exposure to sin, pornography is just something you do. The seared conscience is forced either to turn against itself and plunge into the despair of self-loathing and unhealthy shame or to adopt new standards that allow for the acceptability of pornography. That standard may work for a time, but ultimately it leads to hurt, pain and suffering.”
― William M. Struthers, Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain