Understanding Other People Quotes

“Imagine how your life would change if you just repeated that mantra every day — “I know you are trying your best.” Say it silently to everyone you interact with, and you’ll find you approach them differently.  ”
― Beverly D. Flaxington, Understanding Other People: The Five Secrets to Human Behavior

“The act of dropping our need to be right, right in the middle of an exchange, is an exhilarating experience.”
― Beverly D. Flaxington, Understanding Other People: The Five Secrets to Human Behavior

“Who says I do have the best ideas? The best approach? The best ideas about changing you? When we really think about it, it’s almost laughable, but it’s an idea we all hold near and dear. Step”
― Beverly D. Flaxington, Understanding Other People: The Five Secrets to Human Behavior

“We waste time and energy trying to fix everyone else, instead of spending that energy finding our own inner calm confidence and being secure with who we are. Only when I am secure in my own being can I welcome you in and let you be who you are. An”
― Beverly D. Flaxington, Understanding Other People: The Five Secrets to Human Behavior

“You’ll never be completely “okay” in my book because you aren’t me in the mirror. Opposites”
― Beverly D. Flaxington, Understanding Other People: The Five Secrets to Human Behavior

“Deep down we like to believe that we’re right, we’re the understanding one, we’re the one who can communicate — and that everyone else is the problem. If only I could get you to see my viewpoint, and understand that I’m right, all would be well with the world. What we really want is a secret key that will enable us to show other people around us that they’ve been doing it wrong all along and we can help them to do a better job. We all know that the other person over there with whom we hope to communicate is not okay! After”
― Beverly D. Flaxington, Understanding Other People: The Five Secrets to Human Behavior

“If you can’t — and don’t — assume I know what you mean, it puts a great deal more responsibility on you to ensure you take the time, and the care, to help me understand. You’ll do whatever you can to ensure my understanding because you want us to have a true connection. When we behave this way, communication becomes a more complicated process because I have to stop and consider whether you really understand me, and whether I understand you. It raises the ante on each interaction. It’s so much easier to get annoyed with you, or frustrated by the exchange we’ve had, or ignore you altogether.”
― Beverly D. Flaxington, Understanding Other People: The Five Secrets to Human Behavior

“many times have you said to yourself, or another person, “He/She just doesn’t understand me?” Well, understand this — they can’t, unless you are willing to take the time to help them.  Their filters are busy being clogged with their experiences, background, thoughts, feelings, etc.”
― Beverly D. Flaxington, Understanding Other People: The Five Secrets to Human Behavior