Eyes Are Never Quiet Quotes

“Tapping: An Emotional Freedom Technique”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“Sound. The use of sound is very powerful for engaging a calm response. You can use rain sticks, bells, chimes, and music.”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“Our issues with these students are not behavioral, they are regulatory.”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“The practice of co-regulating with children and youth begins when adults change their focus from the surface behaviors they see in class to the emotions and sensations driving that behavior.”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“relationship resistant.”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“REGULATE then RELATE and then REASON.”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“Discipline focuses on solutions, not retribution”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“They are meant to cause some form of pain to teach a child a lesson.”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“persistent state of alarm (i.e.,”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“An exercise roller is an effective tool in helping a student feel pressure and sensation in the body, which helps him or her focus within the frontal lobe regions of the brain, creating a sensation of feeling the body in the “here and now.”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“The mother’s emotions, thoughts, and perceptions can cross the placenta in the form of hormones, reprograming and preparing how the child will adapt to his or her environment.46”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“According to these scholars, the very event that has caused so much pain often becomes our source of meaning, identity, and a place of familiarity, no matter how dysfunctional it feels or looks.”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“high emotional states equate to low logical states,”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“the language of the brain stem is sensation, the language of the limbic system is feelings. When”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“No one speaks of the pain that pain-based behavior causes those who work with them.”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“Nothing is more uplifting than when we serve each other,”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“1. Symbolic Gifts A talisman symbolizes ritual and ceremony, which our brains enjoy.”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“This mentor could be another colleague or friend, but it must be a person who lifts us up and assists us in seeing the best parts of ourselves in the worst moments.”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“the adversities and trauma of our children and others can create a secondary firestorm inside our own nervous systems.”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“Chronic activation of the fear response can damage those parts of the brain responsible for cognition and learning.”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“Children who have experienced complex trauma exhibit a more pronounced deficit in developmental brain-aligned stress response systems. In other words, this trauma compromises these young people’s ability to self-regulate their behavior.”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“In Van der Kolk’s words, complex trauma occurs when a young person experiences “multiple, chronic, and prolonged, developmentally adverse traumatic events, most”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“educational justice.”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“They share how they have learned how to duck bullets before learning to read. This”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“five hidden wounds of racial trauma, including: 1) internalized devaluation; 2) assaulted sense of self; 3) internalized voicelessness; 4) the wound of rage; and 5) the sense of being a nobody.”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students

“In children, anger is fear’s bodyguard.”
― Lori Desautels, Eyes Are Never Quiet: Listening Beneath the Behaviors of Our Most Troubled Students