Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage Quotes

“Children who do not get adequate sleep may show irritability, physical aggression, and—although it may seem a contradiction—hyperactivity.”
― Aubrey Hargis, Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage: Effective Strategies to Tame Tantrums, Overcome Challenges, and Help Your Child Grow

“For example, “You are feeling angry because you really wanted to play with that lamp.”
― Aubrey Hargis, Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage: Effective Strategies to Tame Tantrums, Overcome Challenges, and Help Your Child Grow

“Find your calm. The first step in handling any behavioral issue is to keep your own emotions in check.”
― Aubrey Hargis, Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage: Effective Strategies to Tame Tantrums, Overcome Challenges, and Help Your Child Grow

“When used properly, distraction and redirection is a respectful way of disciplining a young toddler.”
― Aubrey Hargis, Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage: Effective Strategies to Tame Tantrums, Overcome Challenges, and Help Your Child Grow

“The cognitive abilities of a 1-year-old are primarily impulsive and reactive. Her senses are highly attuned to her immediate surroundings, and as her prefrontal cortex is still largely undeveloped, she will not have access to foresight or logic.”
― Aubrey Hargis, Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage: Effective Strategies to Tame Tantrums, Overcome Challenges, and Help Your Child Grow

“She can understand most simple directions and by now has acquired quite a large vocabulary. However, she will still be unable to tell you her thoughts and feelings,”
― Aubrey Hargis, Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage: Effective Strategies to Tame Tantrums, Overcome Challenges, and Help Your Child Grow

“It’s best to make sure your firmest limits are used sparingly and to offer alternatives whenever possible.”
― Aubrey Hargis, Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage: Effective Strategies to Tame Tantrums, Overcome Challenges, and Help Your Child Grow

“She is fairly adept at reading your moods as well, and then responding to or ignoring them as it suits her.”
― Aubrey Hargis, Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage: Effective Strategies to Tame Tantrums, Overcome Challenges, and Help Your Child Grow

“there is no comfort in knowing that he can come back to the park and play tomorrow because to him, the concept of “tomorrow” does not exist yet.”
― Aubrey Hargis, Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage: Effective Strategies to Tame Tantrums, Overcome Challenges, and Help Your Child Grow

“How do you make a child behave? The answer may be shocking: you don’t. He alone is able to choose to modify his behavior within the scope of his current developmental capabilities.”
― Aubrey Hargis, Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage: Effective Strategies to Tame Tantrums, Overcome Challenges, and Help Your Child Grow

“If you don’t like your child’s behavior, just wait a few weeks for a new developmental stage. By then, you’ll have an entirely different problem to figure out!”
― Aubrey Hargis, Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage: Effective Strategies to Tame Tantrums, Overcome Challenges, and Help Your Child Grow

“When you help your child make it through to the other side of a tantrum, you are giving him a gift for life.”
― Aubrey Hargis, Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage: Effective Strategies to Tame Tantrums, Overcome Challenges, and Help Your Child Grow

“Many adults who were punished severely as children struggle with higher levels of stress that can lead to excessive guilt, anxiety, or depression.”
― Aubrey Hargis, Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage: Effective Strategies to Tame Tantrums, Overcome Challenges, and Help Your Child Grow

“When speaking to your young toddler, bend down to her level and look into her eyes. Stop all other body movements, unless you are specifically using sign language or other vocabulary-related gestures. This is an effective way to capture any child’s attention; she is much more likely to hear and comprehend your words when she can see your lips moving and visually evaluate your facial expressions. Give your directions or information in short, simple phrases, and speak clearly and slowly. Sometimes even just saying a single word will help her focus on what you’re asking her to do. Finally, make a good guess as to what she is feeling or wanting. By using these techniques, you are showing her respect. She is much more likely to respond positively if she knows that you are actively trying to help her.”
― Aubrey Hargis, Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage: Effective Strategies to Tame Tantrums, Overcome Challenges, and Help Your Child Grow

“You, like your child, are on a path of becoming. Your quest: to nurture your child’s potential, and while doing so, learn how to become a stronger and more compassionate human being yourself. Every day, you bravely face the possibility of tantrums and acts of defiance, obstacles that would ruffle even the most heroic among us. Yet you are never alone in these woods.”
― Aubrey Hargis, Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage: Effective Strategies to Tame Tantrums, Overcome Challenges, and Help Your Child Grow

“I like the way you’re sitting” or “Terrific job!” does provide positive reinforcement, but if praise is overused, the technique becomes emotionally manipulative.”
― Aubrey Hargis, Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage: Effective Strategies to Tame Tantrums, Overcome Challenges, and Help Your Child Grow

“As the parent enforcing a rule with punishment, you may see yourself as “taking charge” or “laying down the law.” What you might not see is that underneath his compliance, he is choosing to change his behavior because he afraid of being hurt or abandoned.”
― Aubrey Hargis, Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage: Effective Strategies to Tame Tantrums, Overcome Challenges, and Help Your Child Grow

“When you use punishment as a discipline technique, you are sending your child the message that you want him to suffer for his actions. In his subconscious, he is making the connection that your love is equal to your approval.”
― Aubrey Hargis, Toddler Discipline for Every Age and Stage: Effective Strategies to Tame Tantrums, Overcome Challenges, and Help Your Child Grow