Sleight of Mouth Quotes

“Once we can directly experience something without the contamination of judgment or evaluation, our reflections on that experience are much richer and more meaningful.”
― Robert B. Dilts, Sleight of Mouth: The Magic of Conversational Belief Change

“By words one of us can give another the greatest happiness or bring about utter despair; by words the teacher imparts his knowledge to the student; by words the orator sweeps his audience with him and determines its judgments and decisions. Words call forth emotions and are universally the means by which we influence our fellow-creatures.”
― Robert B. Dilts, Sleight of Mouth: The Magic of Conversational Belief Change

“all problems can be reperceived as challenges, or “opportunities” to change, grow or learn.”
― Robert B. Dilts, Sleight of Mouth: The Magic of Conversational Belief Change

“this would involve moving incrementally from the negative state to another state which is only somewhat negative; confusion, for example. From the somewhat negative state, a small but significant step can be made to a state that is slightly positive; let’s say curiosity about what might happen next. It is then relatively simple to take a step from the somewhat positive state to the desired state of motivation.”
― Robert B. Dilts, Sleight of Mouth: The Magic of Conversational Belief Change

“whenever I/you_______________________________________ What is a key condition relating to the belief? so that I/you__________________________________________ What is the intention of this belief? if I/you________________________________________________ What constraints or results relate to this belief? *although I/you _______________________________________ What alternatives or constraints are there to this belief? in the same way that I/you_____________________________ What is a similar belief that you already have?”
― Robert B. Dilts, Sleight of Mouth: The Magic of Conversational Belief Change

“Belief: ________________________________________________ because I/you ________________________________________ Why is it (are you) desirable/possible/appropriate (capable/deserving/responsible) to reach the outcome? therefore I/you________________________________________ What is an effect or requirement of this belief? after I/you ___________________________________________ What has to happen to support this belief? while I/you ___________________________________________ What else is going on concurrently with this belief?”
― Robert B. Dilts, Sleight of Mouth: The Magic of Conversational Belief Change

“Value: _____________________ is important and desirable. What is a core value that is important for you to establish or strengthen? because I _____________________________________________ Why is it desirable and appropriate to have this as a value? therefore I ___________________________________________ What is a behavioral consequence of having this value? whenever I ____________________________________________ What is a key situation or condition relating to this value? so that I _____________________________________________ What is the positive purpose of this value? *although I __________________________________________ What alternatives or constraints are there with respect to this value?”
― Robert B. Dilts, Sleight of Mouth: The Magic of Conversational Belief Change

“a)What causes it to be desirable. b)What causes it to be possible. c)What causes this to be the appropriate path. d)What makes me/us capable. e)What makes me/us deserving.”
― Robert B. Dilts, Sleight of Mouth: The Magic of Conversational Belief Change