From Coach to Awakener Quotes

“A wise business executive once said that in order to “grow as a leader” a person must feel “a strong will to modify the environment to make it better, then create challenging situations that (he or she) can’t get out of except by changing.”
― Robert B. Dilts, From Coach to Awakener

“The NLP process of modeling, for example, involves making a map of a person’s patterns of behavior, which may then be applied in various ways.”
― Robert B. Dilts, From Coach to Awakener

“The value of mapping is that it allows us to understand, plan, and communicate about some experience or phenomenon without having to actually “be there.”
― Robert B. Dilts, From Coach to Awakener

“the most important feature of a map is the degree of correspondence between the elements in the map and the elements of the territory they represent.”
― Robert B. Dilts, From Coach to Awakener

“Awakening goes beyond coaching, teaching, mentoring and sponsorship to include the level of vision, mission and spirit.”
― Robert B. Dilts, From Coach to Awakener

“Mentoring involves guiding someone to discover his or her own unconscious competencies and overcome internal resistances and interferences, through believing in the person and validating his or her positive intentions. Mentors help to shape or influence a person’s beliefs and values in a positive way by “resonating” with, releasing, or unveiling that person’s inner wisdom, frequently through the mentor’s own example. This type of mentoring often becomes internalized as part of a person, so that the external presence of the mentor is no longer necessary.”
― Robert B. Dilts, From Coach to Awakener

“Ask your client to recall a time that he or she was able to successfully manage a time of transition or change—a time that he or she was able to “bounce back” from adversity or “survive in a changing world.” Together with your client, create a “causal loop map” of this ‘story of change’ by going through the following steps: 1.While the client is speaking, note down 7-10 key words from the story or example on a piece of paper. Key words may be of any type: behaviors, people, beliefs, values, phenomena, etc. 2.Draw arrows connecting the key words which illustrate the influences between key words and capture the flow of the story. (The arrows should be in the form of an arc or semi-circle rather than a straight line.) A positive or strengthening influence can be indicated by adding a (+) under the arrow. Negative or weakening influences can be shown by placing a (-) under the arrow. 3.When your client has finished telling his or her story, go over your initial map, checking the key words and giving him or her the chance to edit them, or add other key words you may have missed. Also review and check the links you have drawn between the key words. 4.Make sure that you have “closed” feedback loops (as a rule of thumb all key words should have at least one arrow going from them, and another arrow pointing to them). 5.Refine the map by considering the delays that may be involved between links, and searching for other missing links that may be an important part of the story. 6.Find out what beliefs are behind the map (what assumptions do these links presuppose?). Frequently, you will find that managing change involves several loops relating to the how (the steps and strategies involve), the why (the beliefs, values and motivation related to the change) and who (the role and identity issues).”
― Robert B. Dilts, From Coach to Awakener