How To Raise Successful People Quotes

“No one has ever changed the world by doing what the world has told them to do.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“In other words, if you don’t act as your own therapist, and interrogate your own childhood, you won’t be the best parent you can be. A parental perspective allows you to understand the challenges your parents faced that you might not have recognized as a child. A child’s perspective is myopic, and it’s impossible for us as children to understand all the factors that influence our parents’ behavior.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“THERE ARE NO NOBEL Prizes for parenting or education, but there should be. They are the two most important things we do in our society. How we raise and educate our children determines not only the people they become but the society we create.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“My rule: Laugh with your friends, not at them.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“Mastery means doing something as many times as it takes to get it right. Mastery doesn’t happen automatically. It’s a process.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“the mastery system.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“Failure is part of learning. If you do something perfectly the first time, there is no learning. Mistakes are encouraged. Remember the motto of Silicon Valley? Fail fast, fail often, fail forward. Kids are supposed to screw up when they’re kids so they screw up less as adults.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“For parents, that means giving kids responsibility—early and often. To say it another way, this means laying off. You have to offer guidance and instruction, but they can do a lot more—and at a much younger age—than you think.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“That’s what kids need: not constantly being controlled or overprotected, but allowed to take responsibility for their own lives.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“If there’s one thing I’ve learned as a mother and teacher, it’s that kids of all ages need their independence.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“Parents want their kids to succeed, so it’s very painful for them to see children fail. What’s the harm in stepping in, they think, and making sure my child doesn’t struggle? Well, there’s a lot of harm. As Lythcott-Haims told me, “It renders kids useless. They’re veal-like humans. Accomplished, lovely to look at, but they don’t know how to think things through as adults.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“Other variations on Chua’s style include “snowplow parenting,” the most evocative term, in my opinion, because it means clearing all obstacles, all challenges the child might encounter.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“her philosophy is that the parent knows best and it’s their responsibility not only to guide their children but to enforce the kind of behavior that leads to success.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“Don’t Do Anything for Your Children That They Can Do for Themselves”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“Respect is what we want to give our children, but sometimes we are held back by our own insecurities. As parents, this is one of the most difficult obstacles to overcome, but we’re all capable of treating our children respectfully if we keep the basics in mind. Honor their wishes and interests, which may be different from our own. Challenge them to be their best at whatever activities they choose. And above all, give them love and support so they gain the confidence they need to pursue their own path.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“As the poet Kahlil Gibran wrote: “Your children are not your children. / They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. / They come through you but not from you. / And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“The number one regret people have on their deathbed is not pursuing their dreams and instead living a life someone else expected of them. Nobody wants this for their child.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“Writing is thinking, and thinking prompts change.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“Kids don’t miss a beat. They see (and feel) the respect that you show your spouse, other family members, neighbors, and friends. They hear how you talk about your boss and colleagues at work. They see how you respect yourself. And they pattern their own behavior and values from every single one of these.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“Your children will see you make mistakes. They will learn more from how you respond to your own mistakes than from the mistake itself.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“Respect includes setting high standards. You don’t respect your children’s abilities if you coddle them. But you also don’t respect your children if you force them to excel in activities that have no personal meaning for them. Enforcing high standards only works when kids can bring some passion to what they’re doing.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“we can rescue kids, through kindness and caring, through finding out about their passions and through having some trust and respect.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“The first was “pressure to succeed at multiple academic and extracurricular pursuits.” This we know. But the second cause was isolation from parents. That’s what happens when kids are not respected for their ideas, passions, or preferences. They learn to fear or resent their parents, which shuts down all communication. They are pushed away when they most need support.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“Don’t win a battle while losing a war.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“Parents also tend to project their fears and anxieties onto their children, especially when it comes to less familiar career and life choices.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“Respectful parenting is supportive and demanding.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“How do you know when to let them find their way and when to intervene? Here’s my policy: They have to be doing something. Not doing anything is the problem. And “something” does not mean playing video games, unless your child is serious about becoming a gaming programmer. What we want is for our children to contribute to society in some way. They should earn a paycheck, or have an internship. And there should be a limit on free rent. You want to give them time to land on their feet, but after six months or so, they should be paying to live in your home, even if it’s at an insider’s price.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“Development is also about turning into the person we’re meant to be. And this process requires a deeper layer of respect: accepting a child for who he is and letting his life unfold accordingly. Kids need to be allowed to take the lead. That means you follow them. Children know who they are. Your job is to honor and respect that.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“I’m going to say this more than once: Parents need to calm down. Your kids will walk. They will talk. They will learn to use the bathroom. They’ll do it in their own time. No one asks how old you were when you were toilet trained. Or when you gave up your pacifier.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

“As parents we have to take ourselves in hand and trust that we taught our children to make good decisions. We have to trust the basic goodness of people and the basic goodness of the world. And sometimes, our children can be our greatest teachers.”
― Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results