Butter Quotes

“In principle, all women should give themselves permission to demand good treatment, but the world made doing so profoundly difficult”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter: A Novel of Food and Murder

“She was tired of living her life thinking constantly about how she appeared to others, checking her answers against everyone else’s.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter: A Novel of Food and Murder

“Don't you think that's a disease of the contemporary age? It feels like these days our value is determined by how much effort we make from day to day. That matters even more than our results. After a while, the concept of effort starts to become mixed up with things feeling difficult, and then you reach the point where the person seen as the most admirable is the one suffering the most. I think that's the reason people are so vicious towards Manako Kajii. She refuses to live that life, refuses to suffer.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter

“If you were accepted by just one person, then you didn’t need to be someone whose beauty was acknowledged by everyone.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter

“There are two things that I can simply not tolerate: feminists and margarine.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter

“There is nothing in this world so pathetic, so moronic, so meaningless as dieting.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter

“Men are inept creatures. They can't build a life for themselves without the support and kindness of a woman.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter

“What you need above all is strength . . . A fighting spirit that can withstand the tedium of everyday life without getting blunted by it.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter: A Novel of Food and Murder

“Nobody has to be fully satisfied by just one thing, and nor do they have to aim to be like everyone else. It's plenty of people can enjoy things a good amount, and be satisfied with their life overall.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter

“By treating himself badly, he had accused the people around him.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter: A Novel of Food and Murder

“Yet I couldn't rid myself of the sense that if I stopped moving, the merry-go-round called our family would simply cease to rotate. If I stopped moving, then I wouldn't be loved. And if I was the one moving, then I had no proof that I was loved. What did it mean to be loved, in any case? Was it to be needed? Why, then, when I was helping people in this way, did I feel hollow and miserable?”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter

“Why is it that with nobody to watch over them, men can’t stop themselves from falling into disrepair? And that disrepair is then looked upon kindly and excused by the world, seen not as a failure of personal responsibility but something poignant and tragic.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter: A Novel of Food and Murder

“Pleasantly full as she was, Rika felt like crying. She might dine with someone, but at the end of the meal they would go their separate ways. She couldn’t stay with that person forever. Even with her stomach full of warmth and the taste of delicious food lingering on her tongue, she remained alone. It didn’t matter who she had for company. She was beginning to understand that the more delicious the time she spent with others, the more alone she felt.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter

“I don't want friends.' As she shook her head of glossy hair, a smile floated across Kajii's face. 'I don't need friends. I'm only interested in having worshippers.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter

“I feel that all women would like to learn to love themselves the way you do, to act with confidence, but it’s actually the hardest thing of all.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter: A Novel of Food and Murder

“The vinegar in the beurre blanc sauce brought the creamy smoothness of the sea urchin into even starker relief. As the warm sea urchin was crushed on the surface of her tongue, it was transformed into sea-flavoured cream that blended seamlessly with the similarly rich taste of the flan pastry, redolent with egg yolk.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter

“Nobody has to be fully satisfied by just one thing, and nor do they have to aim to be like everyone else. It's plenty if people can enjoy things a good amount, and be satisfied with their life overall.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter

“I don't want to give myself up to other people for their consumption. I want to decide how I work and interact with other people based on what I think really matters.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter

“The quickest way for a modern Japanese woman to gain the love of a man is to become corpse-like. The kind of men who want those women are dead themselves. Indeed, it’s because they’re dead that they’re so terrified of anyone with a sense of life about them.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter: A Novel of Food and Murder

“Not looking after yourself is a form of violence.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter

“And yet Rika had realised a while back that, even if she were to lose a few kilos, she still wouldn’t pass. However beautiful she became, however well she did at work, even if she got married and had children, society didn’t let women off that easily.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter

“I do. The ultimate happiness for women is to find their soulmate, raise his children, and make delicious food. And to do so is to make a contribution to society.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter

“When I'm eating good butter I feel somehow as though I were falling.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter

“At the end of the day, men were not looking for a real-life woman, but a professional entertainer.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter: A Novel of Food and Murder

“Rika knew that to get herself out of this place, she had to traverse the bewilderingly long path towards the light. To do so, she had to line up the lowest hurdles she could find, and jump them. Starting by calling upon the people she felt able to call on.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter

“One day, out of the blue, they just became too much. The faces of people who thought nothing of making endless demands, of being constantly given things. The way they sat at the table simply waiting to be served, not lifting a finger. Their certainty that they would be taken care of, without even having to try. I began, in an instant, to hate them. I couldn't be bothered to buy seasonal ingredients, prepare them, cook, choose the plates, serve up the food, then clear away the dishes and wash up for people like that. When I stopped being in touch, when I stopped doing the housework and the cooking, they panicked. Some of them became hyper-suspicious and their behavior took on a stalkerish air. Some of them, after returning to life alone, began neglecting themselves, and suffered physically as a result. Like babies, all of them, whose mother had ceased looking after them. It's odd, isn't it? Once I had found their incompetence, their reliance on me adorable. I believed, up until that point, that I liked pleasing them. Yet I suddenly saw that it was always just me, working away frenziedly, all alone."
Rika didn't fail to notice the slightest change in Kajii's expression, the note of sorrow that went sliding across her peach-hued face.
"Don't get the wrong idea. I like serving men and giving them pleasure. Women who don't don't deserve the name. But being with just one man, a changeable woman like me gets bored."
"And yet you haven't given up looking for a marriage partner?"
"It's just that I haven't met the right person yet."
"I feel like what you're saying isn't---"
"Cooking is enjoyable, but the moment it becomes a duty, it grows boring. The same is true of sex, and fashion, and beauty. When you're forced to do something, it becomes a chore, and the pleasure disappears."
Rick's body felt heavy. She knew this was important, and yet she couldn't bring herself to ask a question.
"The kind of wife that the men on those sites are looking for is, at base, a woman with no sense of life about her. Their ideal partner would be a kind of ghost."
It wasn't at all hot in the room, and yet Rika's armpits were slick with lukewarm sweat. Even the gap between her sleeves and her wrists felt clammy.
"The quickest way for a modern Japanese woman to gain the love of a man is to become corpse-like. The kind of men who want those women dead are dead themselves. Indeed, it's because they're dead that they're so terrified of anyone with a sense of life about them. If those men hadn't met me, if I hadn't rejected them, they'd quite probably have died anyway. They were never really here to begin with.”
― Polly Barton, Butter

“Her loved ones’ issues were their own domains, as individuals, and not places that she could go stomping into. Quite possibly, the only thing she could do was to create a place of escape where the people close to her could come when they needed to.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter: A Novel of Food and Murder

“Don’t you think that’s a disease of the contemporary age? It feels like these days our value is determined by how much effort we make on a daily basis. That matters even more than our results. After a while, the concept of effort starts to become mixed up with things feeling difficult, and then you reach the point where the person seen as the most admirable is the one suffering the most. I think that’s the reason people are so vicious towards Manako Kajii. She refuses to live that life, refuses to suffer.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter

“The kind of wife that the men on those sites are looking for is, at base, a woman with no sense of life about her. Their ideal partner would be a kind of ghost.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter

“I’m going to take care of myself physically, and make sure I enjoy my life. That was what I got divorced for. It wasn’t to make things harder for myself, but to make them more enjoyable.”
― Asako Yuzuki, Butter