Doing Life with Your Adult Children Quotes

“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” (James 1:19). That’s especially important for those of us who are fix-it people. If I am a fix-it person and my kids have a problem, I consider it my job to intervene. That’s what I do, and that’s who I am—Mr. Fix-It. But unless our adult kids ask us for help, we must resist the impulse to fix their problems.”
― Jim Burns, Doing Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out

“1. Be encouraging but not intrusive. You are a consultant at their will. Your job is to be caring and supportive of your child, to mentor only when called upon, and to be your child’s biggest cheerleader.”
― Jim Burns, Doing Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out

“Prayer of Relinquishment God, I relinquish my children to your care and watchfulness. Give me the courage to let go as they move—sometimes ever so slowly—toward responsible adulthood. Grant me discernment to know when to carefully intervene, and the restraint to do so only when absolutely necessary. I acknowledge that this is one of the hardest transitions I have ever had to make, and that I need your guidance and insight. In all things, help me to love my children as you love them—lavishly and with grace. Amen. Although there are no formulas or job description templates for making the transition to an adult-to-adult relationship with your child, Cathy and I discovered some meaningful strategies to help you along the way.”
― Jim Burns, Doing Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out

“was deeply inspired by this story of a grandmother’s faith now influencing the great-grandchildren she never even met. My frequent and”
― Jim Burns, Doing Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out

“We are the link to the past, the anchor to the present, and the bridge to the future.”28”
― Jim Burns, Doing Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out

“When a child is born, he is the closest he will ever be to the image of God.”26 Jesus also said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these” (Matt. 19:14). As a grandparent, you have the privilege of furthering God’s kingdom through the legacy you leave with your grandchildren. An incredible calling indeed! As I mentioned previously, I’ve done several focus groups and spoken to thousands of parents about doing life with adult children. Sometimes the atmosphere is tense”
― Jim Burns, Doing Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out