Thick Quotes

“Beauty is not good capital. I compounds the oppression of gender. It constrains those who identify as women against their will. It costs money and demands money. It colonizes. It hurts. It is painful. It can never be fully satisfied. It is not useful for human flourishing. Beauty is, like all capital, merely valuable.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“They say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and that ugly is as ugly does. Both are lies. Ugly is everything done to you in the name of beauty. Knowing the difference is part of getting free.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“Smart is only a construct of correspondence, between one’s abilities, one’s environment, and one’s moment in history.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“I hate small talk. It is small. Small is for teacups and occasionally for tiny houses. Too much small talk is how a country is given to sociopaths who thrive on shallow chatter to distract their emotional sleight of hand. Talk should be meaningful or kept to a minimum.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“Decades before I valued myself enough to be careful for myself, I was careful so that my mother would not worry.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“Being too much of one thing and not enough of another had been a recurring theme in my life. I was, like many young women, expected to be small so that boys could expand and white girls could shine.

When I would not shrink, people made sure that I knew I had erred.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“Beauty isn't actually what you look like; beauty is the preferences that reproduce the existing social order.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“I fix myself, even when it causes great pain to do so, because I know that I cannot fix the way the world sees me.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“I am living in the most opportune time in black history in the United States and that means, still, that I will die younger, live poorer, risk more exposure to police violence, and be punished by social policy for being a black woman in ways that aren’t true for almost any other group in this nation. That is the best it has ever been to be black in America and it is still that statistically bad at the macro level.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“Indeed, any system of oppression must allow exceptions to validate itself as meritorious. How else will those who are oppressed by the system internalize their own oppression?”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“Black girlhood ends whenever a man says it ends.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“But if I believe that I can become beautiful, I become an economic subject. My desire becomes a marker.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“In a modern society, who is allowed to speak with authority is a political act.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“[to know your whites] ... is to be intimate with some white persons but to critically withhold faith in white people categorically”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“White women need me to believe I can earn beauty, because when I want what I cannot have, what they have becomes all the more valuable.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“Black women have worked hard to write a counternarrative of our worth in a global system where beauty is the only legitimate capital allowed women without legal, political, and economic challenge. That last bit is important. Beauty is not good capital. It compounds the oppression of gender. It constrains those who identify as women against their will. It costs money and demands money. It colonizes. It hurts. It is painful. It can never be fully satisfied. It is not useful for human flourishing. Beauty is, like all capital, merely valuable.13”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“...I had also parsed that there was something powerful about blondness, thinness, flatness, and gaps between thighs. And that power was the context against which all others defined themselves... beauty isn’t actually what you look like; beauty is the preference that reproduce the existing social order.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“When I write, I am fixing my feet. I am claiming the ethos, or moral authority, to influence public discourse. And I am defying every expectation when I do it.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“Smart is only a construct of correspondence between one's abilities, one's environment, and one's moment in history. I am smart in the right way, in the right time, on the right end of globalization.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“Trump’s election could be seen as white voters reclaiming this nation as theirs”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“When we perform some existential service to men, to capital, to political power, to white women, and even to other “people of color” who are marginally closer to white than they are to black, then we are superwomen. 7 We are fulfilling our purpose in the natural order of things. When, instead, black women are strong in service of themselves, that same strength, wisdom, and wit become evidence of our incompetence.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“Symbolic violence only makes sense if we accept its priors: all preferences in imperial, industrialized societies are shaped by the economic system.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“To know our whites is to understand the psychology of white people and the elasticity of whiteness. It is to be intimate with some white persons but to critically withhold faith in white people categorically. It is to anticipate white people’s emotions and fears and grievances, because their issues are singularly our problem. To know our whites is to survive without letting bitterness rot your soul.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and that ugly is as ugly does. Both are lies. Ugly is everything done to you in the name of beauty. Knowing the difference is part of getting free.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“Capital demands that beauty be coercive. If beauty matters at all to how people perceive you, how institutions treat you, which rules are applied to you, and what choices you can make, then beauty must also be a structure of patterns, institutions, and exchanges that eats your preferences for lunch.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“That is because beauty isn’t actually what you look like; beauty is the preferences that reproduce the existing social order.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“We do not share much in the U.S. culture of individualism except our delusions about meritocracy. God help my people, but I can talk to hundreds of black folks who have been systematically separated from their money, citizenship, and personhood and hear at least eighty stories about how no one is to blame but themselves. That is not about black people being black but about people being American. That is what we do.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“What we forget, if we ever knew, is that what we know now about status and wealth creation and sacrifice are predicated on who we are — that is, not poor.

If you change the conditions of your not-poor status, you change everything you know as a result of being a not-poor. You have no idea what you would do if you were poor until you are poor. And not intermittently poor or formerly not-poor, but born poor, expected to be poor, and treated by bureaucracies, gatekeepers, and well-meaning respectability authorities as inherently poor. Then, and only then, will you understand the relative value of a ridiculous status symbol to someone who intuits that they cannot afford to not have it.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“Our dominant story of beauty is that it is simultaneously a blessing, of genetics or gods, and a site of conversion. You can become beautiful if you accept the right prophets and their wisdoms with a side of products thrown in for good measure. Forget that these two ideas—unique blessing and earned reward—are antithetical to each other. That makes beauty all the more perfect for our (social and political) time, itself anchored in paradoxes like freedom and property, opportunity and equality.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays

“The things we touch and smell and see and experience through our senses are how stories become powerful. But I have never wanted to only tell powerfully evocative stories. I have wanted to tell evocative stories that become a problem for power. For that, I draw upon data and research.”
― Tressie McMillan Cottom, Thick: And Other Essays