Shameless Quotes

“Holiness is the union we experience with one another and with God. Holiness is when more than one become one, when what is fractured is made whole. Singing in harmony. Breastfeeding a baby. Collective bargaining. Dancing. Admitting our pain to someone, and hearing them say, "Me too." Holiness happens when we are integrated as physical, spiritual, sexual, emotional, and political beings. Holiness is the song that has always been sung, perhaps even the sound that was first spoken when God said, "Let there be light.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“So my argument in this book is this: we should not be more loyal to an idea, a doctrine, or an interpretation of a Bible verse than we are to people. If the teachings of the church are harming the bodies and spirits of people, we should rethink those teachings.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“My Christian faith tells me that good news is only good if it is for everyone, otherwise it's just ideology.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“Purity most often leads to pride or to despair, not to holiness. Because holiness is about union with, and purity is about separation from.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“I need a place to confess that I don't have everything figured out. Christianity is not a program for avoiding mistakes; it is a faith of the guilty. There is no "right" or perfect way to be. We learn from our mistakes; we extend grace to others and ourselves. In the same way a lover who loves your body allows you to have grace for it, so is grace the antithesis of rejection.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“Our scars are part of our story, but they are not its conclusion. The past is ours and will always be a part of us, and yet it is not all there is. It’s a process, moving from wounds to scars to grief to showing those scars. It takes time, and maybe therapy, and maybe being vulnerable in community, and maybe working through the twelve steps, and maybe making a lot of mistakes, and maybe experiencing a tiny bit of joy.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“Because sometimes the most holy thing we can say is: No. Not on my watch.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“If the Gospel is where we find healing from the harm done to us by the messages of the church, then it must also be where we find freedom. Meaning that even if it is the last thing I want to do, I absolutely have to believe the Gospel is powerful enough, transgressive enough, beautiful enough to heal not only the ones who have been hurt but also those who have done the hurting.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“The religiosity of the prohibition movement was stoked by a genuine desire to lead holy lives pleasing to God. But purity is easier to regulate than holiness.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“Christians should help one another to silence the voice that accuses. To celebrate a repentance—a snapping out of it, a thinking of new thoughts—which leads to possibilities we never considered. To love one another as God loves us. To love ourselves as God loves us. To remind each other of the true voice of God. And there’s only one way to do this: by being unapologetically and humbly ourselves. By not pretending. By being genuine. Real. Our actual, non-ideal selves.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“I hate that this is God’s economy. That the salvation of my enemy is tied up in my own. Which is why I sometimes say that the Gospel is like, the worst good news I’ve ever heard in my life.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“A sexual ethic that includes concern means seeing someone as a whole person and not just a willing body.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“God isn’t waiting for you to become thinner or heterosexual or married or celibate or more ladylike or less crazy or more spiritual or less of an alcoholic in order to love you. Also, I would argue that since your ideal self doesn’t actually exist, it would follow that the “you” everyone in your life loves is your actual self, too.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“What God claims to love, do not deem unworthy of that love. What God has called good, do not call anything other than good. What God has animated with God’s own breath and endowed with a soul and God’s own image, do not treat with anything less than dignity.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“In my pastoral work I've started to suspect that the more someone was exposed to religious messages about controlling their desires, avoiding sexual thoughts, and not lusting in their hearts, the less likely they are to be integrated physically, emotionally, sexually, and spiritually.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“In ancient Greek, the root of demon means "to throw apart." That which causes us to fracture, to become less whole, is demonic. ... I like to think that when Jesus sent the disciples to cast out demons in his name, he intended for them to look with so much love upon those who had become fractured that their neglected pieces returned to the center of their being.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“But here's the problem with capital T total abstinence: when our country made drinking illegal and instilled fear in children about the evils of alcohol, it led, not to increase of holiness, but to a culture of secrecy, hypocrisy, and double standards.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“In the ten years I've been pastor at HFASS, I've known young married couples who did what the church told them and "waited," only to discover that they could not, on the day of their wedding, flip a switch in their brains and in their bodies and suddenly go from relating to sex as sinful and dirty and dangerous to relating to sex as joyful and natural and God-given.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“For all the misguided harmful messages of my religious upbringing, I still cherish that I was raised in a family where things mattered. Our lives bore a continual inflection of faith. I belonged to a community that connected the events in our lives to the divine. We searched ancient scripture for meaning and guidance. We sang our hearts out. We called each other “brother” and “sister.” We belonged to each other. I learned that from the church of my past, and I bring all of it into the church of my present.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“And then I remember: it doesn’t matter. The fact that I sometimes don’t get it is my shit, and I should not confuse my shit with my job. My job is to just love my parishioners. And I do. Not perfectly, but I do.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“Our purity systems, even those established with the best of intentions, do not make us holy.*4 They only create insiders and outsiders.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“we should not be more loyal to an idea, a doctrine, or an interpretation of a Bible verse than we are to people. If the teachings of the church are harming the bodies and spirits of people, we should rethink those teachings.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“But that so rarely works. And if our hearts and brains don’t acknowledge these kinds of truths, they don’t just go away. They burrow into our bodies. For me, any truth I try to push aside seems to seek asylum in my lumbar curve. Ignoring it doesn’t make it go away; it just makes it a refugee. And the refugee camp that establishes itself in my low back grows and gets more and more painful over time. There is a cost to trying to deny pain, to trying to deny ourselves the process of grieving. Eventually our bodies must process it, and there will be, in the end, an emotional balloon payment that comes due.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“It doesn't feel very difficult to draw a direct line between the messages many of us received from the church and the harm we've experienced in our bodies and spirits as a result. So my argument in this book is this: we should not be more loyal to an idea, a doctrine, or an interpretation of a Bible verse than we are to people. If the teachings of the church are harming the bodies and spirits of people, we should rethink those teachings.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“The Gospels are the canon within the canon. The Bible, as martin Luther said, is the cradle that holds Christ. The point of gravity is the story of Jesus, the Gospel. The closer a text of the Bible is to that story or to the heart of that story's message, the more authority it has. The father away it is, the less its authority.

It's a story of how the God who spoke through prophets and poets was the same God who showed up later in a human body and walked around like he didn't understand the rules. Jesus said God's would is like a father running into the road to meet his no-good child as if the child's no-goodness was no matter.

Jesus' stories seemed like nonsense, but then they also seemed like absolute truth at the same time. He just kept saying that the things we think are so important rarely are: things like holding grudges and making judgments and hoarding wealth and being first. Then one night, this Jesus got all weird at dinner and said a loaf of bread was his body and a cup of wine was his blood, and all of it is for forgiveness. All of it means our no-goodness is no matter. Then he went and got himself killed in a totally preventable way. Three days later he blew his friends' minds by showing back up and being all like, "You guys have any snacks? I'm starving.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“To God, everyone is different but no one is special. You're not special for being straight. Or gay. Or male. Or cis. Or trans. Or asexual. Or married. Or sexually prodigious. Or a virgin. We all have the same God who placed the same image and likeness within us and entrusted us imperfect human beings with such mind blowing things as sexuality and creativity and the ability as individuals to love and be loved as we are.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“Holiness is the thing I never saw coming that makes me catch my breath because I know the sacred has interrupted my isolation.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“Many of us were taught that if you do not fit inside the circle of the church’s behavioral codes, God is not pleased with you, so we whittled ourselves down to a shape that could fit those teachings, or we denied those parts of ourselves entirely.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“I was slightly irritated to be reminded of Jesus’ message by a new Christian when what I rather would’ve done was rant about the shit that was making me hate people.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good

“The Gospels are the canon within the canon. The Bible, as Martin Luther said, is the cradle that holds Christ. The point of gravity is the story of Jesus, the Gospel. The closer a text of the Bible is to that story or to the heart of that story’s message, the more authority it has. The farther away it is, the less its authority.”
― Nadia Bolz-Weber, Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good