Prepare to be tortured Quotes

“The very fact that you have bought or borrowed this book means that a narcissist has somehow managed to get under your skin. So, perhaps already you have dipped a toe in, and paid a heavy price.”
― A B Jamieson, Prepare to be tortured: - the price you will pay for dating a narcissist

“By the time you get to the magic number 10, it really is game over. Self -confidence, self-belief, self-esteem- just about everything in fact- is well and truly on the floor. A long, painful, drawn-out recovery process lies ahead.”
― A B Jamieson, Prepare to be tortured: - the price you will pay for dating a narcissist

“I mean, what if I were to suggest that there are some sensible middle-aged people out there who allow themselves to fall for someone, and in the process allow themselves to become so controlled and manipulated that they are powerless to prevent it? I mean, could you ever imagine yourself allowing THAT?”
― A B Jamieson, Prepare to be tortured: - the price you will pay for dating a narcissist

“The main weakness he has seized on is your vulnerability, your desire for love. This leaves you open to (easy for him) emotional manipulation.”
― A B Jamieson, Prepare to be tortured: - the price you will pay for dating a narcissist

“You are overly altruistic; you help too many people, people who in a million years would never reciprocate. You prioritise other peoples´ needs over your own.”
― A B Jamieson, Prepare to be tortured: - the price you will pay for dating a narcissist

“In essence, you will always put the needs of other people above your own. Always.”
― A B Jamieson, Prepare to be tortured: - the price you will pay for dating a narcissist

“You can imagine a narcissist positively salivating at the opportunity presented to them on meeting a codependent.”
― A B Jamieson, Prepare to be tortured: - the price you will pay for dating a narcissist

“Codependents usually have a poor sense of self-worth and at times debilitatingly low self-esteem.”
― A B Jamieson, Prepare to be tortured: - the price you will pay for dating a narcissist

“Narcissists may be self-important, manipulative, selfish and greedy, but they can fall in love just as easily as the rest of us.”
― A B Jamieson, Prepare to be tortured: - the price you will pay for dating a narcissist

“The relationship deteriorates as the narcissist withdraws. They won the testing period, and are now bored, but the codependent clings on. They are used to clinging on, they have done it their whole lives, and this is no different. If he just keeps trying that little bit harder, his partner will see sense. It´s the only thing the codependent knows.”
― A B Jamieson, Prepare to be tortured: - the price you will pay for dating a narcissist

“The initial flattery and attention will get the narcissist off to a flying start, and when the love-bombing follows, the codependent will be blown away. Somebody loves him, at last. No wonder he will become hooked so quickly. Even when the nonsense starts- the silent treatment etc. - this is behaviour he recognises and is conditioned to. He just has to keep trying that little bit harder, in order to win back the narcissist´s approval.”
― A B Jamieson, Prepare to be tortured: - the price you will pay for dating a narcissist

“Having become accustomed to receiving mediocre scraps of love in his formative years, you can imagine his enthusiasm flying off the Richter scale if a potential love interest promises much, much more.”
― A B Jamieson, Prepare to be tortured: - the price you will pay for dating a narcissist

“Fully compliant, accommodating, and happy to continually play second fiddle, the codependent will put himself out if the net result is some form of gratitude or meaningful approval.”
― A B Jamieson, Prepare to be tortured: - the price you will pay for dating a narcissist

“They say that if you wonder if you're a narcissist, you're not a narcissist.”
― A B Jamieson, Prepare to be tortured: - the price you will pay for dating a narcissist

“Narcissists will be thrilled to hear that studies continually show that, as a group, they are usually rated more attractive and likeable than everyone else on first appearances. Not only are they shits, but they are attractive shits into the bargain.”
― A B Jamieson, Prepare to be tortured: - the price you will pay for dating a narcissist

“The male narcissist is a misogynist, holding women in complete contempt. Here you are being tormented, and your compliance with this request [ because by now you know the silent treatment will follow if you don’t ] is just another example of his control over you. At the end of the day you are merely an object, a source of his narcissistic supply discussed earlier, giving him another ‘fix’ to his fragile ego. Attention procured from fellow male diners at the next outing will only serve to inflate his delusional feeling of superiority over others, and bear in mind the attention is for his benefit, not yours. Women present will no doubt take a different perspective from their temporarily distracted partners looking on with tongues hanging out. Along the lines ‘poor woman, if that’s how she’s made to dress. I’ll bet her life must be hell. What a prick’. His demands, always phrased as though in your favour continue unabated. ‘Why don’t you just pack in your job? It’s not as if we need the money. We can live comfortably off my salary. Think of all the extra time we can have together, and less pressure on you’. Awwww, this man is all heart. Well, he does need a cleaner, that’s for sure, as describing the place as untidy would be an understatement. As for employing a gardener! Forget it. Guess who will be spending the summer months breaking her back weeding and edging? Narcissists deem such jobs trivial and beneath them. These tasks were designed for inferior people.”
― A.B. Jamieson, Prepare to be tortured: - the price you will pay for dating a narcissist

“Step 1. Accept it was never a long-term bet. Sure, there were great times. You had fun, they were attractive, and you seemed to click in every way. Now get real. It doesn't”
― A B Jamieson, Prepare to be tortured: - the price you will pay for dating a narcissist

“Codependents suffer relationship addiction. Rather than taking things slowly and seeing what develops, codependents have a bull-in-a-china-shop approach. There is no hanging around, it´s all guns blazing to find a partner, then hang on them at any cost.”
― A B Jamieson, Prepare to be tortured: - the price you will pay for dating a narcissist

“To describe the ending of a narcissistic relationship as problematic would be a serious understatement.”
― A B Jamieson, Prepare to be tortured: - the price you will pay for dating a narcissist