Lead from the Outside Quotes

“Logic is a seductive excuse for setting low expectations.”
― Stacey Abrams, Minority Leader: How to Lead from the Outside and Make Real Change

“Never tell yourself no. Let someone else do it.”
― Stacey Abrams, Minority Leader: How to Lead from the Outside and Make Real Change

“From the moment I enter a room, I am clear about how I intend to be treated and how I intend to engage. I do not tell self-deprecating jokes about my race or gender, though I will do so about my personal idiosyncrasies. I can be charmingly humble or playfully self-effacing without pandering to stereotypes in order to make others comfortable. For example, my attire, my hairstyle, even my presentation style, reflect me rather than aping the behavior of others. I know that when I offer criticism of men in the workplace, I may be seen as a man-hater. I know because I am not married, I may be seen as a lesbian. I know because I will never be less than curvaceous and wear my hair natural”
― Stacey Abrams, Minority Leader: How to Lead from the Outside and Make Real Change

“It’s frustrating to realize we’re taught to be humble in a way that men are not.”
― Stacey Abrams, Minority Leader: How to Lead from the Outside and Make Real Change

“Logic is a seductive excuse for setting low expectations. Its cool, rational precision urges you to believe that it makes sense to limit yourself. And when your goal means you’ll be the first, or one of the few, as I desired, logic tells you that if it were possible, someone else would have done it by now.”
― Stacey Abrams, Minority Leader: How to Lead from the Outside and Make Real Change

“The best allies own their privilege not as a badge of honor but as a reminder to be constantly listening and learning to become better at offering support to others.”
― Stacey Abrams, Minority Leader: How to Lead from the Outside and Make Real Change

“Because I suddenly saw opportunity where I had never been brave enough to look before, and I found that failure wasn’t fatal, that otherness held an extraordinary power for clarity and invention.”
― Stacey Abrams, Minority Leader: How to Lead from the Outside and Make Real Change

“At its most complex, ambition should be an animation of soul. Not simply a job, but a disquiet that requires you to take action.”
― Stacey Abrams, Minority Leader: How to Lead from the Outside and Make Real Change

“I confronted the expected stereotypes by knowing what they were and building an alternate narrative about myself.”
― Stacey Abrams, Lead from the Outside: How to Build Your Future and Make Real Change

“Defeating fear of otherness means knowing who you are and what you’re trying to accomplish and leveraging that otherness to our benefit. Knowing I’d never be invited into smoke-filled rooms or to the golf course, I instead requested individual meetings with political colleagues where I asked questions and learned about their interests, creating a similar sense of camaraderie. In business, I take full advantage of opportunities afforded to minorities but then always offer to share my learning with other groups that have similar needs—expanding the circle rather than closing myself off. Like most who are underestimated, I have learned to over-perform and find soft but key ways to take credit. Because, ultimately, leadership and power require the confidence to effectively wield both.”
― Stacey Abrams, Lead from the Outside: How to Build Your Future and Make Real Change

“What’s not right is giving credence to bad actions, and thereby becoming complicit.”
― Stacey Abrams, Minority Leader: How to Lead from the Outside and Make Real Change

“Being a token is real, and sometimes the urge to take a backseat so we don’t have to be “the one” is tempting. But denying fear of disappointing everyone to avoid responsibility for everyone doesn’t do anyone any good either.”
― Stacey Abrams, Minority Leader: How to Lead from the Outside and Make Real Change

“Our priorities should ideally engage heart and head.”
― Stacey Abrams, Minority Leader: How to Lead from the Outside and Make Real Change

“When we refuse to name our obstacles, we can never find a way around them. Worse, we accept their inevitability, believing we deserve what we get.”
― Stacey Abrams, Minority Leader: How to Lead from the Outside and Make Real Change

“No one born into the minority has the luxury of giving up, even if we do not win enough of the time.”
― Stacey Abrams, Lead from the Outside: How to Build Your Future and Make Real Change

“The goal is to stretch ourselves, to explore our potential, even when we know we won’t be first or the best.”
― Stacey Abrams, Lead from the Outside: How to Build Your Future and Make Real Change

“People already in power almost never have to think about whether they belong in the room, much less if they would be listened to once inside. These men—and they are usually men and typically white—do not have to grapple with low expectations based on gender or race or class. Ambition for them begins with reminiscences of old times and older friendships or newer alliances. The ends have already been decided, with only the means to be discussed.”
― Stacey Abrams, Lead from the Outside: How to Build Your Future and Make Real Change

“good government should be a tool that helps where it can and gets out of the way when it should. It must work for everyone, protect our investments, and defend the civil rights of all.”
― Stacey Abrams, Minority Leader: How to Lead from the Outside and Make Real Change

“We are, by our natures, often required to manufacture our own breaks, identify new openings even before others know they exist. The best hack is to know this is the case, accept it, and move on, prepared to take full advantage. And then do it all over again.”
― Stacey Abrams, Lead from the Outside: How to Build Your Future and Make Real Change

“I revered the civil rights movement and appreciated the laws that granted us the right to ride buses, to sit at lunch counters, to cast ballots. But the slowness of real change fueled the riots’ intensity, from coast to coast. Decades later, inequality still ravaged poor and black communities. Then toss in the continued international struggle to end apartheid, the skyrocketing incarceration rates that scooped up too many of black folks’ cousins, and a youth poverty rate that defied the wealth of the era. I knew the truth behind their rage.”
― Stacey Abrams, Minority Leader: How to Lead from the Outside and Make Real Change

“To put the gap in stark racial terms, in America in 2013, the average wealth per household was $81,000. But averages have highs and lows. When you disaggregate the numbers, white families average $142,000 in wealth, Latinos come in at $13,700, and black families bring up the rear at $11,000.”
― Stacey Abrams, Minority Leader: How to Lead from the Outside and Make Real Change

“to rewrite the rules of power, never allow the position to limit your sphere of influence and control.”
― Stacey Abrams, Minority Leader: How to Lead from the Outside and Make Real Change

“I have to speak up because silence is not only dangerous, it is corrosive. When we refuse to name our obstacles, we can never find a way around them. Worse, we accept their inevitability, believing we deserve what we get.”
― Stacey Abrams, Lead from the Outside: How to Build Your Future and Make Real Change

“Finding the truth requires three simple questions, she explained, and they must be answered in any investigation: (1) What is the problem? (2) Why is it a problem? (3) How do you solve it?”
― Stacey Abrams, Minority Leader: How to Lead from the Outside and Make Real Change

“Six weeks could not erase the difference in upbringing and access. But I learned from them, in our classes and beyond. I learned to mimic their sense of self-confidence and certainty. I didn’t lie about what I knew, but I began to carry myself differently and speak with more authority.”
― Stacey Abrams, Lead from the Outside: How to Build Your Future and Make Real Change

“My dad told me to get comfortable with not being anywhere near the smartest person in the room. I had to accept that I simply did not have the background or education the others did, and it was up to me to decide if that mattered.”
― Stacey Abrams, Lead from the Outside: How to Build Your Future and Make Real Change

“Race and sexual orientation shared common threats, but not identical ones, and when she stood too firmly on one side, she stood accused of ignoring the other. I watched with admiration as Simone came to the conclusion that the”
― Stacey Abrams, Minority Leader: How to Lead from the Outside and Make Real Change