Cud rodzicielstwa Quotes

“The decision by more and more fathers and mothers to regard their parenting as a valuable opportunity for creativity and expression is an extremely effective shortcut to healthy humanity.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“First Illusion: Real life begins after childhood. Second Illusion: Parenting is only one of several issues one must invest in, less important than making a living, health, and politics (for example). Third Illusion: Teachers and the environment play a central role in shaping the worldview children form for themselves. Fourth Illusion: The aim of parenting is to provide our children’s needs and help them get through their childhood.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“Behind the visible or hidden effort to find a quick fix, there is always a hidden reluctance to contain the difficulty as it is. And this causes chaos.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“The feelings of guilt, the expectations, the thoughts, and the fears are like the silt that accumulates at the bottom of a bath, not letting the water drain, causing blockage and overflow.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“listening itself is what happens to us when we are simply here, in the place we are now, without fear.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“What we can do, as far as listening is concerned, is help peel away the barriers that block listening.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“it’s actually impossible to teach someone to listen.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“There is no violence, no obtuseness—there are only children whose parents have crushed them, suppressing their feelings and desires. These children in grown-up bodies are still looking for someone on whom to take out their accumulated anger.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“even now, when it’s hard and scary, there is someone big, strong, and stable who can hold me, someone for whom it’s more important to keep me on safe ground than to deal with their own fears.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“parents, we have created a home where even if we haven’t listened hundreds of times, it’s still worthwhile to send us signals.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“it means they still trust us and believe in our love. A child who still demands and doesn’t give up is a child whose parents have somehow managed to instill in them a deep sense that they are loved and their parents want to listen to them.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“it means they still trust us and believe in our love.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“Our children only cause this turmoil if there’s a reason for it.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“Parents’ true beliefs are evident in how they relate to themselves, and children feel this and need their parents to change not only their behavior but also their thought patterns.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“The help I ask for is, first of all, to contain the difficulty. To spend time with it without judging.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“We cannot truly listen to our children when we want them to change.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“It’s like a hopeless dialogue between a wild horse, yearning to run in the open and have the freedom of movement without which life is pointless, and the horse trainer, who regards a horse as something that carries people and wins on the racetrack.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“The intellectual/emotional food that children still experience as essential for their existence, their parents relate to as luxuries.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“In order to feel secure in the only home we had, we had to call everything we received from Mommy and Daddy love.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“Fear is what prevents so many wonderful fathers and mothers from listening to themselves and to what their children are asking for.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“As I see it, loving someone means giving them what they are really asking for. Not what is correct. Not what is convenient. Not what is acceptable. Not what will make them love you or need you… What They Are Really Asking For”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“Because when we talk about parenting, we are actually talking about the workshop where humanity is created.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“how can such good intentions create such great destruction?”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us

“It’s possible (and really worthwhile) to forgive ourselves for all the missed chances because I completely believe that, in parenting, the space for change is limitless.”
― Shai Orr, Miraculous Parenting: What Do Our Children Really Ask of Us