How Women Rise Quotes

“women are most likely to be evaluated based on their contributions, while men are most likely to be evaluated based on their potential—nebulous criteria that can result in a less qualified man getting the job.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“When you make a mistake or otherwise find yourself behaving like a human, the best practice is to leave it at the stream. Don’t carry it around like that angry monk who kept obsessing about the other monk’s behavior. Just lay that burden down and let it go.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“As the neural grooves of self-blame and regret get established, rumination becomes your default mode.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“A range of studies confirms the truth of a common female perception: that men often have trouble hearing women when they speak. A typical example occurs in meetings where there are very few women present—or even only one, that one being you. You make a point or an observation during a discussion. No one comments or appears to notice. Other participants carry on with the conversation.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“The point is, your definition of rising is always going to be personal, individual to you. But one of the biggest impediments to rising is also personal and individual: being blind to the behaviors and habits that keep you stuck.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“But the survey also indicated that men tended to place greater value on attaining a high position and earning a high salary, whereas women placed a higher value on the actual experience of work.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“The principle of neuroplasticity means that you have the ability to change how you respond to situations. Past experiences may shape your behaviour, but they need not determine it. you have the power to become more precise, more intentional, more present, more assertive, more autonomous, more at ease exercising authority, more confident setting boundaries, and a more effective advocate for yourself.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“Instead of viewing money and position as the sole or even chief markers of success, women also tend to place a high value on the quality of their lives at work and the impact of their contributions. Enjoying co-workers and clients, having some degree of control over their time, and believing that their work makes a positive difference in the world are key motivators for many successful women.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“I tell them, say what you’re doing, say what you’ve accomplished, and say what motivates you. If you want to make partner, you need to say so, over and over. If you don’t, the top dogs won’t view you as committed. Just working hard won’t get you where you want to go.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“As the business sage Peter Drucker famously noted " We spend a lot of time teaching leaders what to do. We don't spend nearly enough time teaching them what to stop.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“High-profile women who seek to rise are routinely criticised as being "too ambitious". What does "too ambitious even mean? It seems to mean that any woman who is ambitious is unseemly, over-the-top, too nakedly self-interested to be trusted.
Men are often described as ambitious, ofcourse, but rarely with the qualifier "too". It seems primarily reserved for ambitious women.Sits not very surprising that even very successful women are often reluctant to describe themselves as ambitious.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“it lies in the capacity to be fully present. Present for a task, for a conversation, for the moment, for an opportunity. Present for your larger purpose in the world.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“Having a clear, concise statement ready to deliver at any moment—one that says what you do now but emphasizes what you want to do in the future and why you’re qualified to do it—gives you a huge advantage in terms of visibility and positioning. It sets you apart from the pack and enables you to make the case for yourself at the highest level when the chance presents itself. In my experience, great careers are often built on chance encounters. So it always pays to be prepared.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“Passing judgment means feeling the need to impose your standards on others, as if their job were to live up to your expectations.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“the trick to maximizing your talents and opportunities is not becoming a less thoughtful and giving person, but rather being purposeful and intentional about your choices while also addressing the behaviors that keep you stuck.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“When you’re on autopilot, you are not really thinking about this situation, this moment, this challenge, or the specific response it requires. You’re just reacting in a way that has become comfortable for you over time. Your brain saves a lot of energy this way. You expand fewer mental calories. But you’re not really present for what you are doing. Which is why you are not considering whether your behavior is serving you now.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“Maureen says, “It amazed me to realize that the women’s tendency to focus on their work rather than effectively communicating what they were doing got interpreted as a lack of commitment. This seemed counterintuitive, because you’d think hard work would demonstrate loyalty.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“High-profile women who seek to rise are routinely criticized as being “too ambitious”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“So Marshall’s aha was that successful women’s tendency to critique themselves instead of others opens them to different behavioral habits than men, who are more likely to accept recognition and deflect blame.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“He mentioned his present job, said his goal was to lead a telecom investment team in south Asia, and noted ties between his country of origin and the region he hoped to work in as well as two key relationships that would be useful. The little speech took less than a minute but was packed with information. He’d clearly given thought to every word and thoroughly rehearsed it.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“The emphasis is always on what you should do, never on what you should stop doing.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“of “to-do” behaviors (say please and thank you, be more patient, treat others with respect) have a more difficult time changing than those who focus on a few “must-stop” behaviors (stop sharing your opinion on everything, quit taking other people’s work for granted, don’t claim credit you don’t deserve). Even the simple injunction to “stop being a jerk” is often more effective than itemizing desirable behaviors to try out. Sally has also seen how the bias for action can undermine the ability of people to let go of behaviors that no longer serve them. A vivid example came during a recent client call about a leadership workshop she was scheduled to deliver. After she had sketched out the program, the head of the planning committee spoke up. “The most important thing is that your program should be immediately actionable,” she said. “We have a very proactive culture around here, so we want to make sure you give people plenty of to-dos. The ideal would be for participants to walk away with five new things they can do Monday morning.” Sally had heard such requests in the past and tried to accommodate them. But now she pushed back. She noted that in her experience the last thing most people in organizations need is five new things to do on Monday morning. With employees already overloaded, adding new items to”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“men sometimes mistrust women who are averse to claiming their achievements. They view such women as inauthentic, falsely humble, or lacking in commitment.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“This matters because top leadership roles tend to be more about potential for the next level of responsibility than management of the current level of responsibility,”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“The point is that both people involved understand they are using one another to improve their access to resources, broaden their professional connections, and create mutually beneficial opportunities.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“women are most likely to be evaluated based on their contributions, while men are most likely to be evaluated based on their potential—nebulous criteria that can result in a less qualified”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“Take that well-known phenomenon of "speaking while female". A range of studies confirms the truth of a common female perception: that men often have trouble hearing women when they speak. A typical example occurs in meetings where there are very few women present. You make a point or an observation during a discussion. No one comments or appears to notice. Other participants caryy on with the conversation.
Then a man, often senior but not necessarily, makes teh exact same point that you just made. But the response this time is very different. "Great idea Jack!" or I agree with what Jack says. " Or I just want to build on Jacks point."
Suddenly Jack owns the insight.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“Belief that Women should always be role models for others: The idea that high-profile women do not get to make their own life choices without first considering the potential impact upon all other women is a pernicious trap. Being successful is a demanding job while trying to maintain a rewarding personal life is tough enough for anyone in todays demanding work culture. Expecting women to calculate personal decisions based on how it will interpret them adds an extra burden. It is certainly not a burden men are expected to bear.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job

“This reluctance to view money, position, and winning as chief arbiters of success is psychologically healthy for women and great for their teams and organizations. But it can have a dark side, leading women to underinvest in their own success even as they devote time to building up others. This instinct for self-sacrifice also lies at the bottom of a number of behaviors that hold women back.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back

“Another judgment pitfall you may encounter when trying to change a behavior is unconsciously expecting that others will change along with you.”
― Sally Helgesen, How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back from Your Next Raise, Promotion, or Job