How to Find Love Quotes

“In other words, whatever we choose will be a bit wrong, so we shouldn’t agonise too much about any one choice we make.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“The real skill is not always to strive to make better choices; it’s to know how to make our peace with our necessarily bad choices. We”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“Marry, and you will regret it; don’t marry, you will also regret it; marry or don’t marry, you will regret it either way. Laugh at the world’s foolishness, you will regret it; weep over it, you will regret that too; laugh at the world’s foolishness or weep over it, you will regret both. Believe a woman, you will regret it; believe her not, you will also regret it….”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“ما معتقد می‌شویم که عاشق واقعی باید به‌راحتی از افکار ما مطلع باشد و لازم نیست افکار خود را با اون به اشتراک بگذاریم. در یک لحظه خاص، شریک زندگی ما بخشی از افکارمان را خوانده و این واقعیت باعث می‌شود به این نتیجه مخرب برسیم که پس او باید همیشه چنین باشد و کل ذهن مارا بخواند. به‌این‌ترتیب اکراه ما از توضیح به شکل قابل‌ملاحظه بیشتر می‌شود.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“Excessive self-hatred is a great enemy of relationships, but so too is excessive self-love.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“They have a job that sounds unimpressive, but their interests are very broad and they might be the ideal person to go round an antiques market with.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“همه ما عشق می‌خواهیم، اما وقتی عشق آغاز می‌شود، ممکن است به‌شدت نسبت به آن احساس خطر کنیم.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“ما معمولاً عاشق را متهم می‌کنیم که نمی‌توانند ابعاد ناخوشایند و تاریک درون ما را ببیند، بنابراین عشق و علاقه آنها مشکوک به نظر می‌رسد. ما همه سعی خود را می‌کنیم تا خود واقعی‌مان را آشکار نکنیم درنتیجه در عشق هنوز احساس تنهایی می‌کنیم زیرا قسمت بزرگی از وجودمان ناشناخته مانده.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“ما به لحاظ روان‌شناختی تمایل داریم به هر قیمتی خوب به نظر آییم اما این گرایش باعث می‌شود به فرد ساکت و ظالمی تبدیل شویم.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“وقتی خودمان را در آن حد نبینیم که کسی به ما نیاز داشته باشد، احساس می‌کنیم که به طرز بیمارگونه‌ای به ما نیاز دارد، درجایی از درونمان به خود اعتماد نداریم و فکر نمی‌کنیم یک انسان قوی و قابل‌اعتماد باشیم، پس کسانی که به‌نوعی به ما نیاز پیدا می‌کنند را هدف حملات و تمسخر کردن‌های خود می‌کنیم!”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“بیشتر نومیدی‌ها، نتیجه بزدلی ما هستند.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“آنچه روابط ما را ترسناک می‌کند این نیست که شیفته فردی شدیم که کمی بداخلاق یا سرد است، مشکل اصلی این است که ما همچنان همانند دوره کودکی به این مسائل واکنش نشان می‌دهیم.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“غریزه کمال طلبی مارا به‌سوی کسانی می‌کشد که نقاط قوتشان، ضعف‌های ذاتی مارا جبران می‌کند.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“Being satisfied with being single is a
precondition of satisfactory coupledom. We cannot choose wisely when
remaining single feels unbearable. We have to be at peace with the prospect of
many years of solitude in order to have any chance of forming a good
relationship, or we’ll love no longer being single rather more than we love the
partner who spared us being so.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“اگر می‌خواهیم در جاده اعتمادبه‌نفس بیشتر گام برداریم، هرروز صبح با جدیت به خود بگوییم که همه ما سبک‌مغز، بله و کله خراب هستیم و کمتر کسی پیدا می‌شود که بتواند بیشتر از 15 دقیقه خوشحال بماند، پس زیاد مهم نیست اگر یکی دو کار احمقانه از ما سر بزند.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“It is time to liberate ‘companionship’ from the shackles of coupledom, and make it as widely and as easily available as sexual liberators wanted sex to be.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“One of the key things that can go wrong in our search for love is that we get fixated on a particular person who turns out not to be a promising or realistic option.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“The way to greater confidence isn’t to reassure ourselves of our own dignity; it’s to grow at peace with the inevitable nature of our ridiculousness. We are idiots now, we have been idiots in the past, and we will be idiots again in the future – and that is OK. There aren’t any other options available for human beings. Once we learn to see ourselves as already, and by nature, foolish, it doesn’t matter so much if we do one more thing that might look quite stupid. The person we try to kiss could indeed think us ridiculous. But if they did so, it wouldn’t be news to us; they would only be confirming what we had already gracefully accepted long ago: that we, like them – and every other person on the earth – are a nitwit. The risk of trying and failing would have its sting substantially removed. The fear of humiliation would no longer stalk us in the shadows of our minds. We would grow free to give things a go by accepting that failure was the norm. And every so often, amid the endless rebuffs we’d have factored in from the outset, it would work: we’d get a kiss, we’d make a friend, we’d get married…”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“At the heart of our under-confidence in seduction is a skewed picture of how dignified a normal person can be. We imagine that it might be possible, after a certain age, to place ourselves beyond mockery. We trust that it is an option to lead a good love life without regularly making a complete idiot of ourselves. It isn’t.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“Or when we are in a relationship with someone we love, we may drive them to distraction through repeated unwarranted accusations and angry explosions – as if we were somehow willing to bring on the sad day when, exhausted and frustrated, the beloved would be forced to walk away, still sympathetic but unable to take our elevated degree of suspicion and drama.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“ما زمانی بزرگ می‌شویم که فرق میان خوب به نظر رسیدن و خوب بودن را بدانیم.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“اظهار نیاز، ضعف نیست بلکه پیش‌شرط قدرت و توانایی است.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“Practising imagination is a key to love. In a way it is love, for we all ultimately have to be considered imaginatively in order to be tolerated and forgiven over the long term. By thinking imaginatively, we’re not being disloyal to the true ambition of love; we’re stumbling on the essence of what love involves.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“Human relationships, Winnicott was saying, can look quite bad and yet we’re actually doing OK, considering the norm. This is a useful attitude to bring to our loves, for they too are unlikely to be perfect. But they are likely to be, in their way (and far more than we sometimes allow), acceptably ‘good enough.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“Sexual liberation was intended to allow people to have a clearer head when choosing who they really wanted to be with. But the process remains half-finished. Only when we make sure that being single can be potentially as secure, warm and fulfilling as being in a couple will we know that people are choosing to pair up for the right reasons. It is time to liberate ‘companionship’ from the shackles of coupledom, and make it as widely and as easily available as sexual liberators wanted sex to be.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“ما به‌سختی تلاش می‌کنیم دیگران از معاشرت با ما لذت ببرند، اما در دنیای عشق این وسواس ممکن است زندگی‌ها را بر باد دهد.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“کودک به والدین بی‌عیب و نقص نیاز ندارد. او به والدینی معمولی و دلسوز نیاز دارد، والدینی که اشتباه می‌کنند و بعد معذرت‌خواهی می‌کنند، غم‌هایی دارند، مضطرب می‌شوند و آرزوهای برآورده نشده دارند، بااین‌حال به فرزندان خود عشق می‌ورزند.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“غریزه گرایش به امور آشنا سبب می‌شود که دو نوع متفاوت از افراد برای ما جذابیت داشته باشند: افرادی که همان ویژگی‌های بد والدین ما را دارند، افرادی که هیچ‌کدام از ویژگی‌های بد والدین ما را ندارند اما هیچ‌یک از ویژگی‌های خوب آنها را هم ندارند.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“One scans past the surface and wonders about what else might be going on in a person. They look conventional and a bit formal, but they could turn out to have playful and wild sides too.”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love

“Unfortunately, after a certain age, society makes singlehood feel dangerously unpleasant. Communal life starts to wither. People”
― The School of Life, How to Find Love