What Would Freud Do? Quotes

“From error to error, one discovers the entire truth”.”
― Sarah Tomley, What Would Freud Do?: How the greatest psychotherapists would solve your everyday problems

“Jung has a few words of advice for the introvert: “His own world is a safe harbour, a carefully tended and walled-in garden…His best work is done with his own resources, on his own initiative, and in his own way”.”
― Sarah Tomley, What Would Freud Do?: How the greatest psychotherapists would solve your everyday problems

“sometimes the relentless effort to control our destructive impulses and fend off the criticisms of the Superego proves too much, resulting in anxiety, depression and a myriad of psychological problems (or “neuroses”). He suggested that the only “cure” was to sneak past the defences somehow and get back to the original wish or desire; to understand the argument taking place among the different parts of the self from the very beginning, with courage and a complete willingness to accept the unacceptable. This is not easy.”
― Sarah Tomley, What Would Freud Do?: How the greatest psychotherapists would solve your everyday problems

“You’re witnessing something very special – you’re witnessing one of the senior American Buddhist teachers fail.” What was amazing, Fronsdal says, was her relaxed acknowledgement; she did not defend or deny what was happening, but simply accepted it with ease. Her easy relationship with failure demonstrated something more powerful than the content of her speech.”
― Sarah Tomley, What Would Freud Do?: How the greatest psychotherapists would solve your everyday problems

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances”
― Sarah Tomley, What Would Freud Do?: How the greatest psychotherapists would solve your everyday problems

“We can control our internal world, even in the hardest of times, by deciding on the meaning of events around us.”
― Sarah Tomley, What Would Freud Do?: How the greatest psychotherapists would solve your everyday problems

“We have no predestined fate, and each of us must decide how to live as fully, happily, and meaningfully as possible”
― Sarah Tomley, What Would Freud Do?: How the greatest psychotherapists would solve your everyday problems

“There exists no ‘meaning’ no grand design in the universe, no guidelines for living other than those the individual creates”
― Sarah Tomley, What Would Freud Do?: How the greatest psychotherapists would solve your everyday problems

“Maslow’s third and fourth tiers of need – social and esteem – because they can contribute to a feeling of being valued as part of a team, bringing with it a sense of belonging and respect. On the other hand, where the working environment fails to meet these needs, people can feel isolated, unrecognized for their efforts and undervalued. It seems we need to belong, which includes not only feeling that we are part of a team, but also that we are a valued member of it.”
― Sarah Tomley, What Would Freud Do?: How the greatest psychotherapists would solve your everyday problems

“Those with a strong differentiation of self are able to separate thoughts and feelings, to respond in a skilful way to anxiety and to maintain their individuality even within the family group.”
― Sarah Tomley, What Would Freud Do?: How the greatest psychotherapists would solve your everyday problems

“We need to stop being so narcissistic (“look at me, aren’t I lovely?”) and materialistic (“he ticks all the right boxes, I’ll have him”) and take a long hard look at where this need for love is coming from, according to Fromm.”
― Sarah Tomley, What Would Freud Do?: How the greatest psychotherapists would solve your everyday problems

“If this seems harsh, that’s all to the good, as far as Fromm is concerned, because he thinks we are sleepwalking to eternal isolation. The commodifying of relationships is not making for a better world or happier people. We’re acting narcissistically when we assume that it’s a question of being loved, rather than loving. It also means that we feel obliged to make ourselves suitable objects of love by amassing cash, status and cosmetically enhanced good looks.”
― Sarah Tomley, What Would Freud Do?: How the greatest psychotherapists would solve your everyday problems

“Maslow agreed with him that a low level of self-esteem lies behind most psychological problems. When our sense of respect for ourselves is low, we suffer from feelings of inferiority, weakness and helplessness, Maslow said, and this in turn leads us to a basic feeling of discouragement (and depression) or frantic efforts to overcompensate for these uncomfortable feelings.”
― Sarah Tomley, What Would Freud Do?: How the greatest psychotherapists would solve your everyday problems

“Other psychologists have suggested, however, that while men gauge their achievements in terms of status and money, women seek validity through relationships, and tend to judge themselves by how they have been as a mother, partner or a friend.”
― Sarah Tomley, What Would Freud Do?: How the greatest psychotherapists would solve your everyday problems

“When we see the future as open-ended, we give ourselves goals that involve gaining information and resources. But when we view the future as time-limited, we set goals that help us come to terms with ourselves and our emotions – to deal with what we have, in a more accepting way.”
― Sarah Tomley, What Would Freud Do?: How the greatest psychotherapists would solve your everyday problems

“Whether it be dread of the outside world or dread of the Superego, it is the anxiety which sets the defensive process going”.”
― Sarah Tomley, What Would Freud Do?: How the greatest psychotherapists would solve your everyday problems