Stay or Go Quotes

“For a romantic relationship to work, it must have shared communication that includes a regular exchange of ideas. Without them, you might as well be roommates.”
― Ruth Westheimer, Stay or Go: Dr. Ruth's Rules for Real Relationships

“It is relatively easy for a person to lie. Saying “I love you” takes little or no effort. However, demonstrating love requires involvement, participation, and action. If your relationship doesn’t have any involvement, participation, and action, then you can assume it also has very little love. Conversely, if a partner shows his or her love in a variety of physical ways—asking if you want something from the kitchen, doing household chores without prodding, buying little gifts when they’re not expected, et cetera—then the words “I love you” become less important. They’re nice to hear, but they become the icing on the cake when a person’s love is demonstrated regularly. Stop and Consider: Does your partner demonstrate his or her love?”
― Ruth Westheimer, Stay or Go: Dr. Ruth's Rules for Real Relationships

“if there are no demonstrations of love between two people, there is no actual love. If one half of a couple never wants to hold hands, never wants to cuddle, won’t lift a finger to assist his or her partner in any way, forgets every important date, or barely says two words over dinner, then I say that person is saying loud and clear that he or she doesn’t have any love in his or her heart.”
― Ruth Westheimer, Stay or Go: Dr. Ruth's Rules for Real Relationships

“You’ve probably seen people stuck in a situation—a close romantic relationship, a friendship, a job, membership in an organization—in which it’s clear they need to move on and yet they don’t. The most common reaction of someone outside such a situation is to ask the person, “Why keep torturing yourself?” That’s a good question, but I’d pose it from a different angle: “Why waste even one second of the next act of your life?”
― Ruth Westheimer, Stay or Go: Dr. Ruth's Rules for Real Relationships

“A vague feeling that something is lacking between the two of you isn’t enough reason to give up on a relationship. You need to identify concrete issues that aren’t working. You need to know what they are so that you can see whether the two of you can fix them. If they are fixable, great; if they aren’t, then move on.”
― Ruth Westheimer, Stay or Go: Dr. Ruth's Rules for Real Relationships