How to Fix a Broken Heart Quotes

“Emotional pain should not and need not be a constant companion. Do not let it become one.”
― Guy Winch, How to Fix a Broken Heart

“Recovering from heartbreak always starts with a decision, a determination to move on when our mind is fighting to keep us stuck.”
― Guy Winch, How to Fix a Broken Heart

“When places and people become too tightly associated with our broken heart, we need to “cleanse” our associations and reclaim them. The best way to do so is by revisiting these places under different and specific circumstances so we can create new associations for them.”
― Guy Winch, How to Fix a Broken Heart

“Unlike real hurricanes, heartbreak has no eye—it offers no reprieve and it leaves no place to take shelter. We thus remain exposed, drenched, and miserable until it passes.”
― Guy Winch, How to Fix a Broken Heart

“Creating mysteries and conspiracies where none exist is a common response to romantic breakups. Our mind unconsciously assumes that if the emotional pain we feel is so dramatic, it must have an equally dramatic cause, even when it does not.”
― Guy Winch, How to Fix a Broken Heart

“When our heart is broken, what determines others’ compassion is not how much emotional pain we actually feel but how much emotional pain they believe we should feel.”
― Guy Winch, How to Fix a Broken Heart

“Real heartbreak is unmistakable, from the intensity of the emotional pain it causes, to the totality with which it takes over our mind and even our body. We think of nothing else. We feel nothing else. We care about nothing else. And often, we feel as if we can do nothing else except sit with the immense pain, grief, and loss.”
― Guy Winch, How to Fix a Broken Heart

“The battle ahead requires courage and determination but also knowledge and awareness: • We have to understand the ways our mind is working against us and take steps to counter the unhealthy urges and habits that are setting us back. • We have to fight the addictive tendency to keep those whom we have lost in our lives, whether via memories or reminders. • We have to rebuild our self-esteem by practicing self-compassion. • We have to adopt mindfulness to battle obsessive thoughts of our loss. • We have to recognize the voids that have been created in our lives and take steps to fill them. • We have to reconnect to our core so we can get back in touch with the essence of what makes us who we are.”
― Guy Winch, How to Fix a Broken Heart

“Rumination involves a repetitious focus on negative thoughts and memories of all kinds (not just related to heartbreak) that can easily become habitual and lead to elevated risk of clinical depression. They key to breaking free of rumination is to counteract its negative pull by fostering ways of thinking that are strictly nonjudgmental. The most potent and successful of these techniques is called mindfulness meditation.”
― Guy Winch, How to Fix a Broken Heart

“What makes letting go so challenging is that we need to let go of far more than mere emotional pain—we need to let go of hope, of the fantasy in which we undo what went wrong, of the psychological presence the person or pet has in our daily thoughts, and thus, in our lives. We need to truly say good-bye—to turn away from love, even when there is no longer a person or animal there to receive it. And we need to let go of a part of ourselves, of the person we were when our love still mattered.”
― Guy Winch, How to Fix a Broken Heart

“If emotional pain were visible we would all conduct ourselves very differently. We would find kinder ways to break up with the person we were dating and we would be less cruel when rejecting people who expressed interest in us. We would show more concern when we saw someone sitting alone, an anguished look on their face. We would be more patient and less judgmental when a friend or loved one fails to get over a broken heart in what we consider a timely manner. And when our own heart gets broken we would be more self-compassionate, feel less shameful about our distress, and more open to asking for the help we need.”
― Guy Winch, How to Fix a Broken Heart

“To fully heal when our heart is broken, we have to look in the mirror (metaphorically and perhaps literally) and tell ourselves it’s time to let go.”
― Guy Winch, How to Fix a Broken Heart

“She believed her only chance for happiness depended on finding a partner yet she was too terrified and pessimistic to try dating again. In an effort to protect herself from further heartache, Lauren’s mind convinced her she was too unattractive to ever find love, so there was no point to trying.”
― Guy Winch, How to Fix a Broken Heart

“We stopped working together shortly after. I don’t know whether Ben
found a new relationship or whether he ever got another dog. I would like
to think he did both. I do believe that if his heart gets broken again in the
future, he will reach out to me. And much as I am curious to know how
he’s doing, for that reason alone, I hope I never hear from him again.”
― Guy Winch, How to Fix a Broken Heart

“When our heart is broken, what determines others’ compassion is not how much emotional pain we actually feel but how”
― Guy Winch, How to Fix a Broken Heart

“She was looking to her actions to define who she was rather than deciding who she wanted to be and figuring out which actions supported that self-definition.”
― Guy Winch, How to Fix a Broken Heart

“For example, in one study, the mere act of writing a comforting message to a heartbroken stranger increased the self-compassion with which participants regarded a negative incident from their own past. Another technique to limit self-critical thoughts is to imagine ourselves saying those thoughts aloud to a dear friend who was hurting. Most of us would recoil at the notion of being so cruel to a friend in need—a stark reminder that we should recoil just as much when we direct the same critical words toward ourselves.”
― Guy Winch, How to Fix a Broken Heart

“Self-compassion involves developing a nonjudgmental inner voice that responds to our own suffering with kindness and caring rather than self-blame.”
― Guy Winch, How to Fix a Broken Heart