Mother, I Don't Forgive You Quotes

“She advised self-preservation. What a relief! How remarkable!”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“There’s nothing you can do about your mother, but it’s high time you took care of yourself. Do whatever is necessary for you to be okay. Don’t let your mother pull you down any longer.”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“Trying to forgive all these years, I had suppressed my anger and memories because I couldn’t forgive if I acknowledged my experiences”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“It’s okay to be angry. Your mother should not have allowed this to happen....”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“I know you have been looking for someone to listen to you, to believe you, and no one helped; they all blamed you. You believe you are bad. That’s not true!”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“Thomas just nodded his head in agreement, and then suggested I write a letter to myself as a child and address those painful issues.”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“I had been conditioned to down play my own abuse,”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“I didn’t understand the experience of receiving empathy, or that I could even successfully seek empathy.”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“In childhood as well as adulthood, each time I shared my feelings with someone, the chosen confidant denied my perceptions”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“Self-compassion is such a basic skill, I instinctively taught it to my own children. Yet, I failed to recognize I didn’t have it for myself.”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“How do you “re-parent” yourself? Even if you know how to parent someone else—that doesn’t mean you know how to parent yourself.”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“Feeling my anger and sadness were beyond my comprehension. These were skills I didn’t learn as a child and didn’t even know I lacked.”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“My brothers did not have the courage to risk losing Mom’s love, by facing the damage her betrayal had done to us. I was already aware that I did not have my mother’s unconditional love.”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“Imprisoned by silence, my emotions turned to slush.”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“Through all this, I poured myself into the care of the girls, jealously guarding their well-being and providing them with a safe and loving environment. I delighted in their healthy, sturdy bodies and minds, as I watched them turning from little girls into adolescence, making all my efforts pay off by becoming happy, “normal” kids.”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“Each time my young brother walked near Smokey, the man reached out and smacked the side of Brandon’s head with the back of his hand. Mom refused to even look up from her newspaper as Brandon pleaded with her for help.”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“More dangerous than anger and hate is indifference. To be indifferent to suffering is what makes the human being inhuman. It is not a beginning, it is an end, and it is always the friend to the enemy. —Elie Wiesel”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“healing comes down to forgiving yourself—knowing you deserve to be respected, you deserve to be loved.”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“Emotional abuse is the cruelest and longest lasting of all.” He goes on to say, “When your self-concept has been shredded, when you have been deeply injured and made to feel that the injury was all your fault, when you look for approval to those who cannot or will not provide it—you play the role assigned to you by your abusers.”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“Nurturing family relationships were outside my realm of experience.”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“When we have been betrayed in our most basic human relationship—and that trust is never restored—how can we learn to trust ourselves to respond appropriately to betrayal?”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“When I tried to let Mom know how disturbed I was by Lou’s mean and abusive behavior toward Brandon, she replied in exasperation, “Nancy, why do I always have trouble with you? Only you? Never the boys! You’re sick and a troublemaker!”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“The only way for me to survive with some dignity and recapture a corner of my sanity was to shut down the compartment that contained the painful memories, the insults, and the lies.”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“I have since learned that forgiveness does not protect us from past, present and future abuse.”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“Your mother has had a rough life,” Grandmother pleaded her daughter’s case. “You should feel sorry for her instead of making things tougher for her. Bill was mean and cruel and much worse than Ed. The problem with you Nancy, is you’re not forgiving,” she concluded.”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“Silence damages the victim and only serves to nourish the abuse and shield the wrongdoer from accountability. Simply put—silence aids the abuser.”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you. —Frank Tyger”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“My grandmother accused me of hurting my mother. Other relatives accused me of being an ungrateful child. Mom said I was mean and cruel and had hurt her deeply. Still impressionable and my spirits tottering under the load of the pain from the past, I accepted the notion that I was that selfish and ungrateful daughter, careless of my mother’s feelings.”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“I always related to the pain of others; I had become numb and unaware of my own.”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing

“How devastating to be hated by one’s own mother.”
― Nancy Richards, Mother, I Don't Forgive You: A Necessary Alternative For Healing